So I'm going to start at the beginning. This could turn out a bit long but I feel you need a backstory.
My MIL and her partner have always been very opinionated and when I fell pregnant it got worse with them telling me what I should and shouldn't do. Finally baby arrived and I was like any new mum extremely over protective of her.
At 2 months old I was advised by MIL to feed her mashed potatoes with Bisto on top as she would like it and 'it would be lovely to see her face with new taste' 'she must be bored of milk'.
Just before she turned 3 months old she came home from a visit to MIL with my partner (Sunday visit to nannys with daddy to give me some peace and I can start he dinner) and was informed that she had been given cranberry juice and a digestive biscuit. Her nappy the next day was awful and very very different. This continues for a while every time she came home from MIL wether my partner had been there or not she had dodgy 'different' nappies just one or two and then it would go back to normal. When we finally started weening (my partner pushing me for ages to do it) she took to it like a duck on water and when she saw the spoon for what should have been he first time she got extremely excited smiling and waving her hands.
a couple of times during this period and up to about 5 months I noticed her hair looked slightly shorter at the back when she came home, and the hair that finally covered the bald spot on the back of her head always seemed to get shorter. (In the end I put this down to it being worn back away like how the bald spot got there in the first place)
I confronted my man about this many times and he always denied it said i was making stuff up and that I was paranoid. That I had it in for his mother and that I just didn't know her properly.
Time went on and I just decided I was tired sleep deprived crazy over protective first time mummy and things moved on, I also decided that I would start attending the Sunday meetings to nannys house just to be sure and limit any alone contact with nanny unless completely nessesary.
My daughter is now 16 months and If you had asked me yesterday I would have said we had built a really good relationship but she comes home from nannys and my parents turn up. ( I was doing dinner and didn't pay too much attention to my daughter at the time as she was grumpy and hungry so concentrated on dinner) first thing my parents say is 'oh she's had her hair cut' my partner quickly chimed in 'my parents said that too' I didn't think much of it as I was convinced all the stuff early on was just me being Crazy phsyco mum. Today my friend comes round and asks me what I did to my babies hair as it looks totally different. Upon closer inspection I notice it looks considerably shorter on one side and compared to photos it looks different.
My partner is completely denying it and telling me I'm crazy making stuff up and why would he jeopardise his home and family when he could just come clean about it. We are at a point (for the millionth time) that I am close to kicking him out, and actually meaning it this time. Thing is I have a feeling of doubt in the pit of my stomach and can't shift it. My partner has lied to me before about unimportant things that I have caught him out on, like that the shop didn't have something when he came home without it, /!: that he's watched a you tube video I've sent him when he hasn't . He lies to his family and friends all the time about menial things and is generally very stubborn.
I feel that I should add that he is a fantastic father, works very hard to bring home money for us, has his priorities straight and clearly loves our daughter. I recently got sick and was in hospital for a few days and he was fantastic at looking after me. He helps with most household chores and most of the time is my dream man.
Basically what I'm asking of anyone who has read this is for your opinions, am I psycho crazy possibly seeing things coz I'm looking for them or are my instincts right? What would you do?