I'm so upset and I don't know what to do. I had my son as a teen, his dad was mentally abusive, I left him when my son was 3 but he continued to get at me through my son.
Things got worse during my son's teenage years, my son was very hurtful to me, he is a big lad and it got to point he would physically stand over me, threaten me, push me around.
Eventually he 'hated me so much' at 16 he moved with his dad for a year. He became depressed, I could tell and tried to arrange counselling for him near his dad's, his dad wouldn't even discuss it with me and did nothing to help saying I was overreacting and simply plied our son with material things.
My son came home after 1 year, on his 18th bday I had taken him away for it, he told me he had been in a very dark place at his dad's and although much better now still depressed. We did some work together - I got him gym membership, healthy eating etc and he got better.
Last year he went to uni and everything seems back to how it was when he was 15, he says horrible things to me, ignores me, gets angry at me for nothing, physically intimidating me.
I'm so hurt I've tried talking to him and he just shuts me out. I don't know what to do.
He has met a girl at uni and insists they are just friends but she is with him everywhere, I can't hardly spend time with him because she comes home with him every time. I'm not sure she's good for him, she smokes weed and took my son to Amsterdam, my son is pretty sensible - doesn't do drugs or drink much - but I worry about this relationship and whether this is the cause of our issues. She also stole a new towel I had bought from my house which I am choosing to believe was accidental at the moment.
I dont want to push him away further by rsising issues with her now.
Any ideas or advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance.