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Deleted my account. Fed up of drama and all things negative.

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ParaPrincess · 23/10/2016 21:40

I came off my Facebook very recently after deciding it was having a negative impact on my mental health. I am so fed up of people saying they were there for me when in reality they couldn't give a shit. I was also sick of school mothers (from my DDs school) creating drama. I tried to stop other mums being negative to each other and it seems I have made everything 100x worse now resulting in online abuse. I actually feel sick over some things that have been said.
At 25 I've now been called weird for not having a FB account. The only two people who have been understanding is my DH and my 65 year old Dad.

Has anyone else came off it? Did you feel better once you came off it for a while?

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gamerchick · 02/12/2016 09:08

If it's not working for you and the way you use it causing unhappiness then you've done the right thing.

It's just a tool, it isn't real life and I personally don't have people on who cause me RL aggravation. I never understand why people they don't like or get on with have access to their full profile. Just block the cunts. It's a click of a button. Nobody has ever pulled me IRL and asked why I've blocked them and if they did I'd tell them I don't want them on my social media.

Its a tool, it's not worth tying yourself in knots over.

Crispsheets · 02/12/2016 09:14

I think it depends who you have as friends on there. I have about 70 who are all like minded, and there is no drama. Or "babes".
When you start accepting friends requests from every Tom, Dick and Harry , that's when the problems start.

waycat · 22/02/2017 17:39

I've been considering deleting my FB account for a couple of months, so am glad I stumbled upon this thread.

Really, the only reason I've kept the account active is because I use it to keep up to date with the latest releases from my favourite authors. But then I thought that I can do that on Amazon, using their Follow function.

Plus, I think maybe signing up to each author's mailing list via their websites would be the best way to get notification of new and oncoming books, while being spared the inane and pointless myriad of posts that seems to dominate FB.

I don't go on FB much and really have no interest in what my "friends" post. Far too many videos, links, photos etc that I couldn't care less about.

So what do you all think? Shall I take the plunge and close my FB account once and for all after deliberating about it for months? After all, it can't be that hard can it?...........

NetflixandBill · 22/02/2017 17:51

I deleted the app but i do check it now and then as my friends use it a lot. I can't bear the 'feeling blessed' brigade or the people tagging themselves and their children at the local hospital; cue the 'oh why hun?", "i'll pm you hun."

Also the algorithms mean that it's mostly clickbait articles of sites i should have unfollowed ages ago

waycat · 27/02/2017 16:24

Well I've done it.
At first I just deactivated my account, meaning it was dormant but I could restart it whenever I wanted to.
But after 4 days I found that I hadn't given FB any thought at all. I was never a slave to it anyway, but having not even looked at it for a few days I felt strangely liberated and somehow cleansed, corny as that sounds!
So I went ahead and deleted my account compeletely, despite FB's insistence that all my "friends" would miss me so much!
Onwards and upwards people........

Wishiwasrunning2 · 27/02/2017 17:30

I just deactivated mine too!!

I've been off it for a few weeks and not missed it. Such a relief to be off for good now.

It's such a waste of life!!

Wishiwasrunning2 · 27/02/2017 17:31

How do you completely delete instead of just deactivate?

waycat · 28/02/2017 04:42

Wishiwasrunning2, if you go into FB's Help Centre and look for the question
"How Do I permanently delete my account?", then the answer page that comes up gives you details and a link to follow in order to delete your account. I've tried posting the link here but can't do it for some reason.

FB certainly don't make it easy for you - you do have to hunt around, and in fact I found out how to do it via a Google search rather than FB itself.

Good luck!

GimbleInTheWabe · 28/02/2017 05:34

My fb page is still live but I very rarely use it. I check it every 3/4 months to read any messages/find out what events I didn't go to ha. Every time I log on it just seems to get worse. It's like a perpetual regurgitation of videos and 'tag your whatever' photos and of course the inevitable humble brags. I couldn't give two hoots about it really. My parents, however, are on it constantly (I'm 25 too OP) and get frustrated when I haven't 'liked' or seen a post they've done even though I always remind them that I don't use it. Whenever I go to visit them they just sit there on their phones 'communicating' with all the people online rather than any real life people that are around them.
You're better off without OP. You won't miss anything and any real friends will know you don't use it and let you know about events/ask to meet up. Although they may want to take a picture at said event 'for Facebook'

Wishiwasrunning2 · 28/02/2017 09:15

Thanks Waycat, I wouldn't have worked that out myself.

I feel so much better off it. I've had short periods without it before but now it's like a weight is lifted, like it's one less think I need to do in the day!

Notjustuser1458393875 · 28/02/2017 09:19

My FB friends are mostly not huns etc but I know, from knowing the truth, that they are only putting the very best version of things on there. I have massively reduced the time I spend on there over the past six months and find my mental health is better the less I look. I check it every week or so for school mums' group messages mostly.

Littleballerina · 28/02/2017 09:20

I would like to deactivate mine but need to save my photos first.

Heathen4Hire · 28/02/2017 09:28

I deactivate occasionally but find my way back on it. My DP are on it, travel a lot (spending my inheritance) and put pics on there for me to see. It's addictive though, and I shouldn't but like having "likes". There is a lot of crap to buy, lots of stuff to be outraged by (not outraged) a lot of pray for this child to to get better shit (usually fake) and Britain First. Looking vac at what I have just written though...wtf haven't I gone cold turkey and got rid of it already?

Shamefulsecrets · 28/02/2017 11:05

I had an account for about a year or two (a couple of years after it first started), but got fed up of people being offended after assuming I was ignoring their post, as opposed to the truth, which was that I hadn't seen it because I only went on there once every few months. I don't really miss it, but it can be annoying as you can't always look up reviews/comments for people/businesses online unless you're a member and logged in. Sometimes you can't see the page at all.
I also really didn't like the invasion of privacy and the implications of them having your details and photos, etc.
The adverts got on my nerves and I hated that fb were constantly changing privacy settings without telling you and storing your history, etc, with the explanation of it improving your experience ( it didn't: I don't want ads, suggestions, etc, following me around).

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