Am i being unreasonable? At my wits end

[Sammieantha86]

Hi all just after a little advice really, me and my partner have been together now for 4yrs, for the first 3 years my partner was unable to work due to health issues and other reasons therefore we lived off my income as he was unable to get any benefits as he hadnt paid enough NI conteibutions, anyhow for the last 12 months he has started working and basically earns more in a week than i do in a month. Now all the bills are still come out of my account rent, council tax, water, tv license etc and i was living off tax credits to get me through the month, he was paying for the sky and the food shop -- now the tax credits have stopped because of his earnings therefore i basically work all month just to cover the bills and am left with nothing to get me through the month! I have mentioned this to him and that i am alot of.money down each month and he seems not at all bothered at this situation but as i have 3 children im sure you moms would know that its virtually impossible to get through a month without a little disposable income.

I love him and i hate arguing about money as i am not a materialistic person but at the min im struggling to get this through to him and im at my wits end!

Any advice please comment

I think i may put that one too him just to see what the outcome is

He sounds deeply unpleasant.

What kind of man doesn't want to support his own child?

Get rid and get the CMS to extract it from him.

Sounds like my ex, although we didn't have dc. I left him, best decision ever. He made me pay the same as him into the joint account for household expenses, even though that left me with nothing, not even enough to get petrol.
Ironically I know have a very well paid job and Dh and I pay a proportion of our wages into the joint account. Much fairer.

Sorry, you've created a monster, he's just living the way he has previously. Tell him to crack open his wallet or he can do one.

He's trying to control you. What an ass. TELL him you will be cancelling some of the payments coming out of your acct. And he needs to start paying them. Dont ask. Tell!

OP, this is financial abuse. Sort out a set amount he has to pay each month in advance.

Urm what a twat. Tell him you have supported him for 3 years, now your not entitled due to his earning he either moves out or pays at least 50% of expenses, what does he do with all his money?