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home2016 · 17/10/2016 13:37

everyone im currently in a situation my daughter went her dads in august she was meant to be back 5 th september but he has refused to let her come home hes accused me my husband and my 4 sons of mental physical and emotional abuse we have been assessed by social services and they have cleared us of these false accusations and has been told by social worker to bring her home but he still refuses to she is not in any education down there or anything he sleeps in till late afternoon and leaves her to make her own cereal the social went there the other day they was in bed (him and his gf) but my daughter went to the livingroom window (were she currently sleeps due to no bedroom) to see who was there , so now im having to go court to get her back what are my chances here not to mention he has no parental rights hes not on certificate but plans to move with her also

I went to see solicitor gotta get £1200 together for her to put the case to court
She defo needs school she's in year 2 yupbi have and because he has DNA paper to prove he's her dad the police won't get involved sad and nope she has no bed to sleep in only a sofa not to mention he has a 6 month old son too and a weed addiction so what are my chances of getting her back in court he won't let me speak to her or see her either

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Racmactac · 17/10/2016 13:59

Download c100 application of the internet and issue it urgently, you don't need a solicitor at this point.

home2016 · 17/10/2016 14:34

Would I need to go to mediation

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 18:50

If he has no PR and isn't on birth certificate why have you not contacted the police and reported him for abducting her?

wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 18:51

Sorry just read that back and it comes over quite aggressive Blush sorry meant as a genuine question not being an arse I promise

kimlo · 17/10/2016 18:52

dna reasults mean nothing with out pr, have you shown the police her bc?

home2016 · 17/10/2016 19:19

I have the police won't get involved they have said because he has a DNA result letter to prove he's her dad he has them all fooled

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 19:38

Then I would be turning up and removing her myself if I was in your position

kimlo · 17/10/2016 19:44

thats what I woukd do, with a copy of her bc and a letter from ss saying that he has to return her to you.

If it went to court I dont think he would get very far if he hasnt even sorted a school place for her.

home2016 · 17/10/2016 19:49

tried that too he wouldnt open the door told me and my husband to f off basically and now he says if i turn up to try an get her again then it wont be as pleasant as the first time says im a dead woman walking if the courts give her back to me or if i take him court he will hurt me , such a big man can only threaten woman he didint like it because i didnt back down and'' say yea yea ok you can keep my daughter'' well i am not affraid of him when my partner went to try and get her before i did he came out with a baseball bat to my husband and his ill dad

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home2016 · 17/10/2016 19:57

kimlo-

hes to busy sleeping in till 1-2pm in the afternoon to care about her education

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 20:17

Then you need to take those threats to the police - they cannot ignore it! I would also speak to women's aid and see what help they can give

home2016 · 17/10/2016 20:25

because the threats were made over the phone they cant do anything ive been told and because he apoligised via text to cover his back they wont do anything its like we live in a world were police are usless

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 20:39

Fucking hell home that is really shit!! Please speak to women's aid - they will have better advice than us

abbsismyhero · 17/10/2016 20:42

get it to court asap and go to the police officer complaints commission they are failing your child ffs DNA is not PR unless he has been granted that by you or the court?

home2016 · 17/10/2016 20:43

i have been in contact with solicitor who said court it is then but im terrified that the judge will fall for bs lies and give her to him permantly ive not seen or spoke to her since august its killing me he calls me everything in front of her this is the longest we have been apart

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 20:50

No decent judge will over rule a ss statement. She is your dd.

Where abouts are you/he. Maybe we could all give you a hand to arrive at the door. I know a few burly farmers/bouncers who would willingly return her to you

home2016 · 17/10/2016 20:52

im in nantwich cheshire hes in anglesy wales

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 20:57

I'm too far away but I should think there are others who will help!

home2016 · 17/10/2016 20:59

its okay but thanks for the thought thou :) will just have to go threw courts to get her

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wheresthel1ght · 17/10/2016 21:11

Please speak to women's aid or google to see if there are help and support groups that can help or offer legal advise etc.

home2016 · 17/10/2016 21:15

i will :)

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