I don't know if anyone can help me understand this? Any advice?
My sister and I are both in 40s. We don't get on and sadly we never really have. We're very different, she's into her career, whereas I'm SAHM. My dad often said he thought she was the clever one when we were little and although he never said so, I felt he favoured her. My mum was close to both of us, maybe me a little more as adults. Mum knew there was an issue between us but she didn't really understand it either. My mum sadly died some years ago and since then my relationship is worse than ever with my sister. I don't know why, I try to be kind and friendly and interested in her and her kids but she is pretty much indifferent to me. She's the same with my dcs and they find it hurtful and are asking me why she is like this. Dh can see it too. It's awkward when I see her. My DS has ASD, high functioning, and she's very dismissive of it, as if it's nothing. I don't live close by and rarely see her. Last week I visited my dad. She was already there. When she saw my car pull up she left virtually straight away.
My extended family think she's great. They don't see the side I see. I know that things won't change, this is simply the way it is but it's affecting my confidence, which is non exsistant anyway. I wonder what is wrong with me for her to dislike me so much 