I'm pregnant with our first child and we've just started telling people. I use Facebook, DH doesn't. We have agreed that we don't want the baby on there - so there's been no online pregnancy announcement, and we won't be putting photos on.
No one we've told about the pregnancy has mentioned anything online, except for MIL who is writing lots of statuses about her excitement about being a grandma, and tagging me. I am deliberately avoiding replying to these or giving Facebook permissions for these posts to appear on my wall. However, still feeling rather conflicted about it. I can see she is just really excited, which is lovely, and I don't want to spoil her fun. However I also think it is pretty ignorant of her not to notice that we're not putting anything online and follow suit.
Both DH and I are worried that his mum might put loads of photos and statuses about the baby once it's born and we really want to avoid this. He feels it's easier to tell her BEFORE it's born that we don't want this baby to have an online presence, including her tagging me in statuses about it. I'm just worried about offending her (she loves a drama and posting on FB and I don't think will understand why we don't want it online).
I am trying to think of ways we can channel her enthusiasm into something else - have thought about whats app groups or google drives or apps where you share pics only with an invited audience. However I think ultimately these won't allow her to share the excitement with her Facebook friends, so won't seem quite the same to her. We live overseas so she will be feeling the distance I think, and I just want to keep everyone happy but also not have my child all over Facebook, including before it's born!