On 31 July 2016, my ex-husband unexpectedly and prematurely died of a massive stroke. We were married for 22 years and had 2 sons together - aged 20 and 17. We divorced 10 years ago and he subsequently got together with a new partner and her 2 sons. Sadly, for us, he was a better dad to her 2 sons than our 2 sons. Not surprisingly, we are very upset by these recent events. My sons are not only mourning the loss of their dad but also the loss of a dad who was rarely there for them. I am mourning the loss of a man whom I spent 22 years with and the loss of my marriage. Plus trying to deal with my anger that he was such a poor father to my gorgeous boys - both of whom have had serious problems as teenagers, exacerbated by the absence of their father. I am posting this in the hope that some of you might have some wisdom and kind comments to help us through. I am new to this site. It was recommended by a friend and I hope that it is OK to post about this kind of stuff. Thank you.