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On holiday with friend not going very well...

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Spanishgly · 14/08/2016 09:52

I am currently in spain. We have been here two days. The whole time she has been really bossy like rushing me to be ready ect.
All she has done is been on her phone texting some guy she is fucking when she isnt texting him she is going on about him to me.
All she speaks about is him, her belly looking fat and bloated or how dark her tan is.

So yesterday we got really drunk, she was sleeping on the street then we moved to the beach. I was trying to get her up because i was wasted and we needed to go home.
She was screaming at me to fuck off and even some other people tried to help her and she was just saying leave me alone and fuck off i need to sleep.

I then decided to go get her food to sober up. I left her for 20 mins

I know this was stupid but i didnt know what else to do. I went with some guy as he knew a kebab shop and i left our shoes to make it look like she isnt alone. I took her handbag with me.

She woke up before i got back and was talking to some girls and guys who told her she had been alonr ages.

When i found her i wanted to go and she wouldnt leave because she felt a need to stay woth these girls and guys because they helped her which meant we got in a 7am

She has made constant digs about me leaving her claiming i left her for two hours.
Even we met with the guy i was with yesterday and he confirmed we left for only 20mins but she was saying how she was drunk and woke up sober and it would of taken her two hours to sober up.
So she came to this conclusion based off this and cried when i wouldnt accept i left her for two hours.
I did not do this i know i didnt

She also lost her bank card to which someone spent momey on it. We think it was the bar man because of certain things.

When we went to the police station she was talking to some man saying how
"I was distracted because she was talking to me"
Like she was blaming me she forgot to take her card back from the bar man.

I was talking to her because she was buying random girls drinks and i was telling her not to.

Wwyd? She is annoying me

OP posts:

EweAreHere · 14/08/2016 11:27

You need to cut back on your drinking so you can function sensibly and safely and choose better friends. How did you think this was going to go down; surely you know what she's like to have gone on holiday with her?

flossietoot · 14/08/2016 11:27

There is drinking and getting a bit merry and having a giggle, and there is drinking and personifying something off 'club reps uncut'.

ComedyWing · 14/08/2016 11:27

You sound as bad as one another, to be perfectly honest, with all the drunken lurching around, foul-mouthed abuse, mutual blaming and highly dubious/unsafe decisions. In what known universe is leaving your shoes beside an unconscious drunk while you go and buy her a kebab from an unknown shop with a random stranger a normal thing to do? Did you think your shoes were going to protect her from a potential assault? If you knew it was 'stupid', why did you do it?

Does this 'friend' have any redeeming features when she's not aggressive/passing-out drunk? Is this your idea of a normal holiday where you sort of drift around drinking so much that you end up passing out on the ground with random strangers? It sounds deeply unenjoyable.

ilovesooty · 14/08/2016 11:37

I can't understand "he knew a kebab shop"

Aren't there loads of food outlets?

ElspethFlashman · 14/08/2016 11:38

You were wasted and went off with a strange man? Just cos he said he could find a kebab shop??

You bloody fool. He could have led you anywhere and raped you and stolen both your bags.

And as for putting shoes beside your friend! "Oh I don't think I'll rape that paralytic woman on the ground after all - she's got a 2nd pair of shoes beside her!"

25 does not give you the excuse to act about 15 Jesus Christ.

And if you're about to say "well what would you have done?" I'll say that I would have called a fucking cab and gotten one of those "helpful" onlookers to haul her ass into it no matter how much she roared. And gotten us both home and dealt with her mood the next day.

Good god.

Chippednailvarnishing · 14/08/2016 11:40

wow you sound so cool making these remarks
And you sound about 14.

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 14/08/2016 11:45

Lego that is a good idea. Usually it is her looking after me but i dont know why she is getting so drunk here. This is the second time now i had to look after her because she wants to sleep on the street. We have stopped drinking now though until we return home on thursday

See, I was feeling sorry for you up until this post but it sounds as though she's done looking after you and wanted to drink on her holiday.

Best decision ever not drinking now.

Threesoundslikealot · 14/08/2016 11:47

Is drinking moderately not on the cards at all? You must both feel really ill a lot of the time.

PatriciaHolm · 14/08/2016 11:49

Sounds like the holiday from hell for both of you quite frankly. Neither of you sound responsible enough to be out drinking on your own.

Coconutty · 14/08/2016 11:55

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feckthemall · 14/08/2016 12:04

Girlwiththelionheart, the op herself said she was wasted and her friend fell asleep in the street. Is that really your idea of a good time? Leaving yourself so vulnerable that you go off with a total stranger who knows a kebab shop. Jesus, I love a drink and have done my fair share of of it in my youth but never behaved like the above. What is wrong with people who think this is normal? Is the aim to be featured on one of those shameful drunk and abroad programmes. Baffling why anyone thinks drinking themselves into oblivion is fun.

newname99 · 14/08/2016 15:02

Perhaps you are seeing what it's like to deal with an out of control drunk.Its awful so a good insight into how your friend might have looked after you in the past.

I was no saint when I was younger but by your 20's I think you need to have learned how to drink more wisely.never drink so you fall over and know your limits.If you drink to excess one night then learn from it, it doesn't happen by accident.
Also alcohol is a depressive so both of you will be hacked off today.

user1466795981 · 14/08/2016 17:34

I can see where OP was coming from with the shoes thing tbh.

I'm glad I'm much more cautious than I used to be with female friendships

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 14/08/2016 19:22

But it's not normal to not drunk and just sit by the pool all day reading for some 25 year olds either

usual · 14/08/2016 19:28

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kate33 · 14/08/2016 19:33

Is this for real?

Billyjoelene578 · 14/08/2016 19:39

The thing is, of course she can go drinking g if she wants, no one is saying she mustn't, but the OP didn't post to say what a great time she was having g, she posted about how fed up she is, and how she isn't having fun, so given that, the suggestion that she try relaxing by the pool instead seems v reasonable!

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 14/08/2016 19:59

Yes, it's all very well defending the drinking until you fall over and go to kebab shops with random men, but if that's what you're going to do, you might as well be enjoying it! But if you are having a rubbish holiday, maybe do something different? And you do sound as if you're about 17, by the way.

OlennasWimple · 14/08/2016 20:08

I'm middle aged and have two kids and I can do what I like, thanks. But I'm not so stupid as leave my friend asleep on the street and wander off with a strange man who says he knows a kebab shop - OP you are seriously lucky that this is the problem you're dealing with, not something far more serious

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 14/08/2016 21:17

You can't really go out drinking all night if you have two kids to look after. I have two kids and my holidays don't consist of drinking and raving anymore.

feckthemall · 14/08/2016 21:29

Girl it is possible at any age to go out have some drinks, dance the night away and have a fantastic time without messy drunk.

suspiciousofgoldfish · 14/08/2016 21:44

When I lived in Spain, the locals always used to take the piss out of the Brits, saying that we were a bunch of uncouth, drunken numpties..... I have absolutely no idea why.

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