I'm 7 weeks pregnant. We're thinking about how to share the news with family and friends. We're going to tell my five closest friends when I'm 11 weeks - because one of them is getting married and I'd like their understanding about why I'm not drinking, rather than having to be a secretive bridesmaid! We'll also tell my parents and sisters when I'm 11 weeks - because that's when we'll see them, and we'd like to do it face to face. All of these people will be under strict instructions that it doesn't go any further for now, and definitely not on Facebook. For wider family and friends we plan to wait until September (weeks 13 - 17) as I am awaiting a permanent contract at work and am due to sign it that month. We won't do a Facebook announcement at any stage.
Now the complication is DH's family. We're not sure whether to tell his parents and sisters when we tell mine. In a way, it seems fair that they know at the same time. However we are a bit worried that a) they might put it on Facebook or at least hint about it, and b) they might tell relatives and friends who won't know it's secret and may say something on Facebook. I'm not Facebook friends with anyone at work but I do have some connections (e.g. colleagues and I share some FB friends) and also we work in a very well connected sector where news can travel fast. I definitely wouldn't want the news reaching anyone at work because it could jeapardise my permanent contract. Is there any way I can change my Facebook settings so that for example, I couldn't be tagged in a post? Or so that people can't send me any publicly visible messages? Would this even be enough to reduce the risk sufficiently? So a safer bet might be to wait until we tell everyone else, and give them the news after my contract.
For what it's worth, my family and DH's family are not going to be in touch with one another so no risk of mine telling his.
I am probably over thinking it but just got to be so careful with my contract.