To be pressured into this or not?

[stitchisblue]

I wouldn't say so much pressured,
I'm sort of sat on the fence at the moment with this one.

So my boyfriend is desperately wanting a threesome, and I'm wondering if I should do it or not!
Our sex life is absolutely amazing and I can't fault the relationship at all but recently he spoke even more of wanting one, I asked my friend out of curiosity to see if she would or not; she's said yes and now my boyfriend wants to do this as quick as tomorrow and I can't help but think he's sooooo desperate? We're expecting a baby together and I'm worried that is will affect us?

Anybody else had experience in this and what would you recommend?
I kind of want to do this - he's reassured me he loves me and that's it's just something he wants to experience with me..

Help!!!
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You sound like a complete doormat

Go back to your title and reflect on the fact that your initial wording included the phrase "pressured"

Don't ever do anything to please someone else if you are not equally into it. Had the idea of having sex with your friend ever entered your head before he opened his trap ?

Do you think he might get bored with you if you don't do this "for him" ?

It won't be your fault if this relationship falls apart because you said no to a threesome, it'll be because he's a grade A prick! If all he's interested in is threesomes and 'new experiences' wtf is he doing in a committed relationship with a baby on the way? Would he honestly want you to go through with it if you didn't really want to just to keep him? I couldn't be with someone who made me feel like our relationship depended on me doing something I wasn't 100% comfortable with and, frankly, you deserve better OP. I really hope he surprises you tonight and realises how pressured and insecure he's made you feel, good luck

When it comes to sex if you have to ask someone else if this seems right, it probably isn't.

As a fantasy great but as a reality these things can turn out very different , especially with someone you know personally.

What if he enjoys sec with her a lot?

What if you find yourself attracted to her?

What if said friend becomes attracted to you or your partner?

I wouldn't - at least not yet.

If he loves you he will maybe be disappointed but say he'll wait until it's a time when (or if) you are ready.

Anything less is blatant disrespect.

It's hard being a single parent.
That's all I have to say......