Apologies, this could go on a bit.
Where to start? I pretty much grew up with 2 friends who are sisters, always in their house & went out with them all the time. The joke was always that I would be introduced as their other sister (which they have even done recently). Anyway, we are all grown up now, but have kept in regular contact, one of them was my bridesmaid and I'm god mother to one of their children.
Anyway, one of the sisters was getting married recently. Now I get the whole wedding politics business, there is a set budget and sometimes you have to make tough choices, so I never assumed an invite. The wedding was organised quite quickly over about 3 months. I saw the sister (not the bride) a fortnight before the wedding, and even though I sort of knew I wasn't invited by now, I asked if her sister would be having a hen party as she is a party person so I couldn't imagine she wouldn't & I hadn't heard anything. She skirted round the subject and moved the subject on. I thought that was a bit strange.
Move forward a week before the wedding. I get a text at about midnight at the weekend, not from the bride, but her sister (bride does have my number) saying I was invited to the wedding, could I make it next week? No details such as if DH was invited. I didn't respond straight away. Following morning, happened to look on FB. A whole album of hen party pics. Big thanks to DS for organising local hen party last night. It was local to me too, only I had no clue it was happening.
TBH I was gutted. More gutted about this than the wedding invite. I felt that they had deliberately not included me after the dodged question the week before. It wouldn't have cost them a penny to invite me out to have a drink with them, and she appeared to have a number of friends there in the pics, and on closer inspection this was hen party number 2. I was totally thrown then about the text invite. Surely if the bride really wanted me there I would of had an invite before now, and not a text via her DS. It felt like a drunk 'shit we'd better add her on, Aunty Ethel can't make it she can have her seat'.
By this point I was so upset about the circumstances I didn't go to the wedding and made up an excuse. I feel bad about lying, but I'm actually really hurt by their lack of thought. Having planned my own wedding, and other peoples hen dos, you always write out a list of who you want there & her DS knows me very well.
I have had time to reflect on this now, but am still thrown with what to do? Should I say something? Do I even have the right to say something? It was her wedding, her choice, but then I have no clue where this leaves our friendship, if at all. WWYD?