Upset with MIL.

[MrsWigster1991]

I will admit that me and my mother in law have a strained relationship. To be fair I have never stopped her from seeing her grandchildren (even thought I've put up with snide remarks, underhanded parenting tactics and even been made to feel terrible because she was not invited to my birth). However I see her EVERY week. It's getting to the point where she is rude to my face. My husband will tell her to stop but then she puts the water works on about how stressed she is etc.
This week she got very upset because I wasn't pregnant. (I did a test as I thought I might have been, luckily I'm not). She then continued to be horrific to me because she wanted me to be pregnant.
I have been going out to avoid her and planning things on "her days" but I'm missing spending time with my husband (her day is his only day off) and kids. She comes at midday and doesn't leave until 9pm. Wwyd in my situation?

I try to keep things civilised with my ILs but if my DD said something like that, I'd have gone ballistic. Things often go over kids' heads but your MIL is clearly blatantly rude to you as your dd has said that. I'd use it as a reason to put foot down. I'd start by challenging her every time she was rude. That comment about sterilization was disgusting. It sounds like you have nothing to lose by being more assertive with her.

I'm afraid your DH is going to have to choose.

He needs to grow up, take responsibility and inform his mother that she is only welcome every other week and only if she behaves herself and is pleasant to you.

If he doesn't deal with his mother you are going to end up divorced.