My close friend of 20 years is getting married later in the year. She has invited me, my DP and my DD (2 years 4 months by then) to the evening only due to tight number restrictions.
I am a little sad to not get a ceremony and wedding breakfast invitation, as I will be the only one out of our friendship group not invited to that part. I understand it is due to tight numbers though and wouldn't dream of letting on I was feeling that way.
Anyway, I have RSVP'd with yeses for myself and DP and no for DD. Explained DD goes to bed by 8pm, refuses to nap in the day and will no doubt make the evening difficult with toddler grumpiness and being tired meaning we would have to leave very early. Want to enjoy her reception, have a drink, stay late etc etc.
My friend has emailed to say she is disappointed my DD won't be coming and asked that I reconsider and just let her burn herself out and then sleep in her stroller.
To be fair she does think the world of my DD and I understand her wanting to see her at the reception but my DP and i don't have many nights off and think for what it's worth there just isn't much point taking a tired toddler and not being able to stay late and enjoy the night fully!
Had we been invited to the daytime part, my daughter would have been fine for that and we would have arranged for whoever babysits to collect her when ready for her bed.
Just feeling a little frustrated as she doesn't have children she doesn't understand that it isn't as simple as just bring her and let her fall asleep in her stroller 
and i resent having to get her dressed to go out, carting her to the venue over an hour away for the sake of her staying an hour or so to then have her collected by babysitter and taken back home!
I have pretty much made my mind up to stick to my guns and say no to DD just DP and I will go, WWYD?