Maybe im being petty and thin skinned but i feel increasingly pushed out by my hubby and inlaws. Iv been married 20yrs and we have 3 kids. Over the yrs i have been excluded from events and told that its only close family only etc. Understandably iv felt awful at these times, yet when iv approached hubby iv been made to feel as if im in the wrong or being a drama queen. What has really made me feel bad though is at my FIL funeral i was told tradition would be upheld and only close family in 1st car so i sat in 2nd with all the kids. Yes i was upset as i wanted to b there for hubby and also wanted his support as it was an emotional day. They only told us the change in the seating arrangememts as cars arrived. As if that wasnt bad enough during the entire eulogy there was no mention of me as either a DIL, wife or by name. It killed me. ( god i sound selfish) We recently then lost my MIL so i knew what to expect in how the family were going to sort things out. And yes as expected i was seperated from the adults and sitting with the kids only to find several of her friends we invited into the front family car. I kept quiet as i didnt know what to say. The service went hitch free except yet again as a human and family member i wasnt aknowledged. Even mourners apologised to me so it was noticed. Things have got to the point that my eldest has suggested we divorce even though me and hubby dont argue. He just hates how i am constantly snubbed under the guise of not being close family. Im torn and fed up of being hurt