Hi, my mum and dad separated when I was 9, well she had an affair and moved (three hours) away with her older partner. I was the one who discovered their affair, as my mum used to babysit her then partners son, once I happened to look through the key hole in the sitting room, as my mum and the boys dad closed the doors and I saw my mums hand on his leg and then they started kissing. I was in disbelief, only being 9 years old. That evening I told my dad, he and my mum then spoke about it, the following day my mum packed her suitcase and left the house, before telling me everything was my fault and walking away, leaving my dad to care for me and my mums daughter (my half sister, who was not paternally his), then she moved to a bed and breakfast for a few weeks before moving three hours away. We rarely spoke to my mum as my dad could not afford a home phone, we wrote a few letters to her and used the local phone box to speak to her and saw her only two times a year. My mum even now blames her now ex-husband for leaving us as children and walking away from her responsibilities, but that is something I'm not willing to accept, after all he didn't force her to go with him. My dad struggled at times raising both me and my sister, he suffered deep depression and started drinking, but he changed his life around and was a great father, who I cannot fault at all in anyway. My mum doesn't know half of what we all went through, my dad struggled financially, to the point he couldn't afford to eat everyday and we went to school with worn and ripped coats, that my dad used to sew because he couldn't afford to buy us new ones, holes in our shoes and clothes that were too small, my mum really has no idea how much of a struggle it was. She has always lived far away throughout our lives, but did move close by two years ago, we then had a good daughter and mother relationship and i felt good that I had a mum in my life as a mum should be, however a year ago she moved away again, after leaving her then husband for somebody she met on Facebook. Since she has moved away, she has little to no contact with me or her grandchildren, she never phones me, I have to phone her, she doesn't know that my daughter was in hospital recently because she stopped contacting us, I just don't think she cares anymore. I really don't know what to do, as I feel as the months go by she becomes a distant memory and not someone who I would call a mother because she has never really been one. I've always missed having a mother and daughter bond and have always envied those who have a supportive mother in their lives. Do I just cut her out completely, or shall I be honest and tell her how I feel? Sorry for the long post!