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Double-booking

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clearsommespace · 23/10/2015 20:37

Some friends (family with kids, he is DH friend from way back) had asked us for dates when we could visit them. It involves staying overnight given the distance. A month ago, we suggested this weekend which they couldn't make. So we suggested next weekend. I didn't hear anything back, the children asked if we could do something in our city for Hallowe'en and I agreed. DD has bought herself a costume with her pocket money.
Today DH started a conversation about what gift should we buy. I found out that his friend had replied yes to next weekend but not copied me on the email. (I was copied on all preceding messages).
Our kids aren't particularly friends with their kids. They all get on fine when they see each other but our kids don't feel like they'll be missing out by not visiting and do feel like they'd be missing on the Hallowe'en plan if we go. I didn't tell DH the DC and I had made plans. He is often home late from work and misses out on many conversations I have with DC at meal times. He was there the day before I took DD shopping for her costume (a couple of nights ago) but is often tired and zones out a bit from the conversation.
Do you think it's reasonable to explain to them the mix up and try to find another date (probably in the 2016 now as we have lots of family birthdays at the end of the year)

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Clobbered · 23/10/2015 20:42

Can you do the halloween activity with your friends and their kids too?

clearsommespace · 23/10/2015 20:43

No because it is in our city. But they are expecting us to visit them. They want us to go there.

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TurnOffTheTv · 23/10/2015 20:46

There will be Halloween stuff going on everywhere surely? Could you find something going on at their end?

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clearsommespace · 23/10/2015 20:51

I feel we should stay here. But I guess I'm concerned that they might be upset if we put our children first. I wouldn't say ours are entitled but they are used to us sticking to what we say we'll do. They are a large family and the oldest DC are expected to change the baby's nappies etc and I get the impression that for practical reasons the parents are less likely to give equal weight to their children's opinion on such a matter.

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clearsommespace · 23/10/2015 20:53

It's one of those things that involves specific streets where people we know live so there will be familiar faces (under the masks and make up)

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