Ex's Girlfriend is a CONTROL FREAK!

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So here's the saga in brief.
Break it off with ex August last year, he has new girlfriend in October, kids met her several times before I was told about her, not by my ex mind you, he's been ordered not to speak to me.

We are currently inbetween Family Court Hearings.
Im self represented, he has a lawyer.
He has committed tax fraud for 7.5yrs with the accountant (who was my friend prior to becoming our accountant).
He closed our Family Trust bank acc and cut off all money and over time every utility for the house he has kept the kids and I trapped in.
Im on half Government benefits due to my being in the trust.
He has demeaned me on every level imaginable, made me sell everything to feed our kids, won't bring them medicine (panadol) unless the girlfriend and himself remove the children from my care and 'seek medical attention', so basically the girlfriend texts me pretending to be my ex.
I know it's not him because he can't spell, punctuate or copy links in relation to Contravention Orders to attach to a text.
He's trying to force me to settle for a measly sum so I sign out of the trust. I won't, I'm busting him for tax fraud. He has called the cops and told them I'm suicidal, had me arrested twice an has also assaulted me, I tried to get the keys to the letterbox back because my approved subpoenas and Enforcement hearing orders I had applied for never reached me.
Funny how he is flanked by 3 lawyers, claims to have no money for child support and let's his girlfriend treat me like a degenerate.
Ill be bringing this up next hearing however I lost it at them on the weekend due to the girlfriend texting me pretending to be my ex telling me they will offer medical attention only if they come get the kids. Bastard owes me 3k in child support.
So I told her to shove it where the sun don't shine and a few other unmentionables.
I didn't let the kids go with them on their court ordered day because my kids were sick, apparently she was not satisfied with my diagnosis of my own children and is filing orders against me.
Where the #-@k does this woman get off?
Anyone else had this nuisance?

Don't let her distract you, or let him distract you with her. He is your problem!

Refuse to talk to her, and ignore the baiting.
Get new keys for the letterbox, or a new box or make sure all mail for you is delivered to a safe address like your best friend or family member.

Keep communication to a minimum,preferably by email so you have a paper trail to show solicitors/courts.

Personally this sounds like harassment to me but keep strong x

Can you call women's aid? Defo some dv here. Legal aid will be free. Good luck

get a new mail address

I have to respond to messages coming from his phone regarding the kids. It's in the court orders. Im going to get reamed out by the judge because I have a sharp tongue and lost my temper.
He's abusing my kids to get at me, if I take off with them the Feds will find me and them and give them to him.
Im trying to prove tax fraud in a Family Court, I can prove it without a doubt but it's so hard to get an opportunity to have it heard because it's not their jurisdiction.
I've got to settle before he gets done for fraud and goes to jail but if it's not done at the right time I'll lose everything. Ironic thing is I put my life savings as a large deposit on our house. He had nothing. How could I let this happen, right under my nose for 7.5yrs.
He did some psychological damage to my son today, I'm so angry I can't breathe.

Wd you not report the tax fraud to the Tax authority? Sounds as if you are in US/Canada, so def do not take off. Sometimes it's necessary to accept loss of $$ and start afresh. Really sorry to hear that you are trapped into answering the phone altho it is the ow who is doing the messaging. Can you get a calm friend to do the checking and answering with you at the side to avoid the trap of digging a hole for yourself? Also can you reply by message rather than speaking ? Are you and your cc getting counselling? YWCA and Salvation Army come to mind for possible advice and help- especially lack of food .Is it possible to attach a padlock to the mailbox? Mail theft IS a Federal crime . Can you set up a video camera and catch her/him doing it ? Print samples of his writing and samples of hers and show them to the judge . It sounds as if its really obvious that it is 2 different people. Maybe write some short responses to choose from when you get caught on the phone and want to let rip e.g. leave a message we are in the middle of whatever right now or leave a message and will get back to you later as busy right now.

wd the bank not have a record of the $$ you took out for the downpayment and you should also be able to get a copy of the actual cheque. If you have to answer the phone put it on loudspeaker and whoever is at the other end will hear that tone and wonder who else is hearing them. You could have a convo on the side to a pretend person to really throw them off. Bet the lock on your mailbox cd be changed. If the mailman has to have a key make sure he does not give a copy to anyone else. Is it possible that is what happened?

Well.... She texts me, posing as my ex, she doesn't call as such. She tried but I want everything recorded.
She controls everything and tries to emotionally manipulate me through my kids. I think she's a twisted bitch. She's never met me, doesn't know me yet she's trying to ruin my life.
Im so poor I can't afford to have the mailbox changed, it's a built in one. I wrote the court and told them about the missing documents for my hearings plus I mention it during proceedings.
She's organised my daughters bday party, sending invites to her kindy friends!!!!! This just can't be happening to me.
Looks like she supports my ex and totally buys his bullshit stories.
Texts me today and tells me she's booked Frozen on Ice tickets next year for my kids, she's taking them. And earlier was texting me saying 'we can't fix the lights in the house yet, you need to think about getting full centrelink'. WTF????
I won't repeat my response.
The ex hasn't lifted a finger to prepare for the sale. Can't sell it if the lights don't work.
I have reported both him and the accountant to the ATO, however, I will never know the result of any investigation. I made contact with the Inspector General of Taxation and get this, I have to compile a report outlining the fraud, so basically audit 8 yes of business, compile it into a condensed version, and write a report and hand it over. So that on top of defending myself against his 3 lawyers, girlfriend, accountant, him and anyone else he's turned against me I'm taking care of my kids and just about to lose my house.
Ive proven I put all the money in. Thing is he won't complete his disclosure so I can't settle. He's waiting me out.
He ignored my son yesterday, I'm still livid

Are you able to put the house up for sale yourself- as Real Estate agents use different trades people to get houses into shape and could be open to getting the cost of the electrician settled when the house is sold. cannot beleive the gall and intrusiveness of this woman taking over your dd's Bday party. Try to underplay anything like this so the cc do not take on your upset and also do not feed into her game of alienating your cc's affection- which BTW i think is a legal matter. Is there a tax fraud hotline where you live? You are not an auditor , but can you send them any financial papers that they can use? Courts do not allow people to delay more than they regard reasonable. But i think you need a lawyer to speed things up . Call the Law Society and see what they suggest. Try not to involve your son in the middle of your disputes as he will get hurt.