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please help me !

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proudmummy2 · 14/09/2015 16:42

I don't know if this is the right place for this but I'm desperate, basically just over a year and a half ago I lost my son Olly, I gave birth at home alone 2 days from being 24 weeks pregnant, he was born alive but it was 12.10am on new years night so by the time the ambulance came and we got Olly to hospital there was nothing they could do to save him. After a year of paying off my baby boys funeral I am now financially at breaking point, I got diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder following what happened and I am getting increasingly depressed over not being able to effort my sons headstone, its the only thing I can give to him and I can't. Ive started reducing my medication for the PTSD so I can go back to work but this us proving harder than I thought it would be, I've no friends and my family can't help me with the costs, I've sold everything I possibly can sell, I've applied for loans left right and center which has messed everything up more -company's taking money from me to search for loans on my behalf -which wouldn't be so bad if I actually got a loan. I have created fundraising accounts on go get funded and go fund me but to no avail ,I have asked for social loans and grants but there's nothing they can do, I'm at breaking point with it all, I just wanted to post here to see if anyone has any suggestions on what I could do, if there's anything I've missed that I could try?
Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance xx

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proudmummy2 · 15/09/2015 21:02

Thank you so much for replying, unfortunately all my religious views went when my son got taken from me, Ihave not heard of cruise but i will definitely have a look into it, thank you again im very greatful for your suggestions x

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TheoriginalLEM · 15/09/2015 21:14

I am so very sorry for your loss :(

I understand as i haven't been able to afford to get a headstone for my dad. Its rubbish but i know my dad wouldnt want me to get into debt for it. My DP is a carpenter and has actually made a lovely wooden cross and i bought a brass plaque. That is enough until my fortunes change. My dad knows i love him.

You can tend your little baby's grave and make it nice with flowers etc, that is showing your love more deeply than any headstone because its more personal. So please dont feel bad about this.

In terms of debts, please please please don't take out any more loans. If you are struggling with debts contact the national debt line, they are so helpful and will be able to advise you regarding sorting out any debts you may have.

Again, so very sorry for your loss x

TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 15/09/2015 22:16

Hello OP
Hope you are okay - so sorry to hear about all of this.
There's some
bereavement info here and here
Really hope that you can get some support and help both on MN and in RL.

Just to say that we do advise all our members to be aware that not everyone on t'internet is who they say they are, and that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Kindest to you
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