I think PIL are seriously abusive, controlling, their outrageous behaviour knows no bounds when it comes to getting what they want. They have us over the barrel financially..so after many years I'm at the point where I can't live with it anymore. (they are 89 and 90)
Which is worse....
a)Keep taking their money and have a breakdown, trying to justify myself and hearing their sick comments going round round in my head. Hate myself for getting bullied into family events where she always ends up yelling at me (no-one else) across the room. Every time I hear 'you MUST come to this or that, who knows how long we have left. 'ohhh, you are soo sensitive, what a delicate flower... (I'm not at all).
b) tell them to shove the money, give up a comfortable home, move house, live on the bread line? (what if it all goes wrong, and we end up in debt? We'd still have to see them I can't deprive them of the son and grandchildren whom they adore). Such a move will involve endless shouting from them, sending the police round to 'check' on us,threats, insults and more.
DH is happy to support me, but they always 'get' to him in the end!
PS it would take pages and pages to describe them and their behaviour which in MILs case is probably fuelled by undiagnosed mental health issues.
PPS any votes that involve talking to PIL is a non starter.
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