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Irrationally upset??

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Somerset1972 · 12/05/2015 21:08

I'm not quite sure why I'm so irrationally upset about this, I feel like I'm being rather irrational but at the same time part of me is thinking not?? Basically this time last year my grandfather died it was a horrific unexpected time, he was still only 67, whilst he was dying my sister who lived with him and my granny decided to up and leave and move to another city with a bloke she just met, visited very little and left me with it all! A few months after he died she announced she was pregnant, they're naming the baby after his uncle (who she's never met) he died many many years ago, I thought she was kidding. She wasn't, had the baby today and he's named after her oh uncle. I know she can call the baby what she wants, it's her baby after all. I've spent the whole day sobbing, I feel like someone's twisted the knife in a wound! What the hell makes him more important than OUR grandad?? If she didn't like his name why not just call baby something else out of the million names out there? After all my grandad did for her? I really feel like I've been kicked in the teeth! I wish I could snap out of it but it's infuriated me!!i don't think she feels it the same as me as she has a father and I don't, I was brought up by my grandad and granny Aibu?

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Heyho111 · 17/05/2015 11:44

I'm so sorry for your loss. You must feel like you are on your knees.
I think your feelings about the name are exaggerated by the pain of your GD death. I think you could be subconsciously using it as an outlet for the pain you are feeling.
Try to see it that you're sister may not like your GD name so used a name that was close to his that she did like. I think your GD would have liked the fact she used it.
Try to let it go. Hard at this time. But grieve for your GD and just give yourself time.

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