I think I've reached the limit of my patience. I've been with my husband for 13 years and married for 5, we have kids aged 9 and 7. He works really hard in the week, gone by half 6 and back by half 8 when the kids are going to bed. He never reads stories or anything, I do that, he just says goodnight and then the telly is on all evening. I home school my kids, earn some money by tutoring/childminding. Obviously I do all house hold chores (and kids do their share) and all cooking except Sunday dinner which he does and I walk the dog everyday. Its not a question of who works harder, we both do a lot, although I would say probably that my life is more enjoyable.
Anyway that's all fine, the weekdays are just how it is, but the weekend Id say we're on even ground in that we have 2 family/chill out days. On Saturday I walk the dog and DH takes kids to a sport class. After that he bets online for the rest of the day until say 6pm. I have always been ok with that, he doesn't lose lots of money, its a hobby. During that time the kids are great at doing their own thing or I might take them out for the afternoon or to see cousins and I usually spend 2-4 hrs catching up with housework on a Saturday too.
However Sunday is supposed to be a 'family' day. Ive told him no racing. Mostly he ignores this and does it anyway or if I make a fuss he sits and watches sport instead. I would like a screen free sunday so that we can actually spend time together like I imagine other families do? The main problem seems to be that he doesn't seem to want to spend time with the kids and honestly that really hurts my feelings! When my son asks if he can take him to the park and he says 'no' it just seems so mean. My son is so laid back, he doesn't make a fuss but its making me feel really angry and resentful. The kids love their daddy very much, he's like their hero, but I honestly feel he is a crap role model atm.
I wish my DH would look for a less stressful job but he won't. Ive asked if maybe he can work from home (he's allowed to) so we can cut out the long commute even one day a week but he wont.
I actually asked him if he wanted out, we just have nothing in common. Im an outdoor type and he is a sit in front of the telly type. I just cannot waste my life sitting about doing nothing! Having said that I wouldn't leave him, but I just want a bit more enthusiasm for family life. Ideas please on how to sort this! I do talk to him about it but he just ignores me. Its like talking to a brick wall.