please help me.... a prank gone wrong :(

[MysticMugBug]

I am at college studying to be a teaching assistant and I have been suspended due to a formal complaint made by my friend about a prank in college class time.
I sprayed her with fart spray on 2 separate occasions, the second time I got caught out, then admitted it.
I need to say that I am deeply regretful and did not realise that she would feel hurt and singled out. I value my friendship with her as well as my qualification. (I wrote an apologetic note to my friend)
I am due to have a meeting with the head of my subject a day this week and I am scared that she will not allow me to carry on the course.
Do you know of anything that I can say in my meeting that shows maturity and such?
Thanks
Ps. it may be worth mentioning that I have adhd. I want the college to know that I would never use the fart spray or any other inappropriate behaviour on pupils in my care.

Oh dear that was really silly, how old are you? I think that will make a difference to how your treated here.

If they do kick you off then perhaps you could take a year out and come back allittle more prepared.

I'm 25. Graduated from uni 2 years ago and I really need this.
I sound unsympathetic to my 'victim', I am just really panicky, but I have spent all week worrying about our relationship and how she feels.
It was just really stupid.

What on earth made you think that was an appropriate thing to do?

You'll just have to say that it was a huge error of judgement and hope they will give you another chance.

Does your colleague or anyone else know that this was the second time you have done this?

25........fart spray.......

You fucked up, and yes lost a friendship. Think you should now grow up and move on

The issue here is that this is bullying behaviour - you'll be working in an environment where you will be expected to recognise and control that the if behaviour. Not act like a bully yourself

You will need to be very remorseful at the meeting. Acknowledge that your behaviour was totally inappropriate and di not try and explain it away as a joke or as your friend over-reacting.

Showing insight is key

All you can do is make it clear that you acknowledge you've made a huge error of judgement and apologise profusely. If they do decide not to allow you to continue then you could ask what you can do to redeem yourself and reapply?

It was such a silly thing to do though, especially give that you're studying to be a teaching assistant as it raises concerns about your understanding of appropriate classroom behaviour and how humiliating and demeaning something like this which is supposed to be 'funny' actually is.

I never knew there was such a thing. Didn't the friend complain the first time?
Having ADHD isn't really a factor though. I'd not mention it - if you really just can't control your urges then how will you cope working with a class of children?

I can't see them kicking you off the course over this tbh. She probably just wants you in for a formal chat about appropriate behaviour.

Were both times to the same friend? Does seem a bit mean.

prays ds never learns of fart sprays existence

Aw Mystic just say what you wrote above. How sorry you are & that you regret it. I honestly don't think they'll throw you off the course.

Good luck

That stuff is awful. She would have found it very humiliating. You need to recognise this.

Unless this is a wind up, I'm staggered. Someone in DS1's class used that aged 11 and the whole class was punished until someone owned up. the Head of Year was called in. Never seen him look so angry. It's revolting stuff.

How can you be 25, planning to manage a class full of unruly pupils and not know instinctively that this is entirely inappropriate. Did you buy it and bring it in expressly to use on someone? How did you think they'd react?

I am stunned that at 25 years old, in a formal education institute whilst training to be a teacher that you did this!

As others have said you need to really apologise the victim of your bullying, make sure that the college know that you are sorry and show that you have comittment to finish the course.

You may have difficulty convincing your college that you are serious about teaching.....

She's not training to be a teacher.

I wouldn't want them to think that your adhd contributed to this. You want them to understand that you would never do this in a classroom. Doing it twice isn't going to help with your argument though.

Sorry OP but what does having ADHD have to do with it?? This was hardly a spur of the moment thing. You had the spray with you in class and you had already done it before to the same person...

Stop blaming your condition and take responsibility for your actions.

I would take a very dim view, were I your tutor, of this incident in terms of your future career.

You will probably just be told off, tbh. I expect you will be allowed to continue your course.

I'm gobsmacked that a 25 yr old would see this as either funny or acceptable. This has got to be a wind-up?
I've tutored NNEB students at college (many moons ago) and this would have been treated with incredulity amongst the course tutors. We would have taken a very dim view and would have considered whether such a student was mature enough to work with young children. Also, and this is crucial, we would have to consider whether appropriate judgments could be exercised by someone who considers bullying behaviour to be a 'joke'.