My friends had an affair and it's not sitting well with me.

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Just that really, a very close friend of mine has just told me she's been having an affair with a guy from work. I feel sick at hearing this as she has a very lovely family good husband . Feel like telling him the whole bloody thing I'm so disgusted

oh god, resist resist. are there children involved?

Yes

It's a horrible position to be in, have been there myself. I didn't say anything to her partner but it really changed the way I viewed my friend and I had to let a 10yr friendship fizzle out.

This is so hard! I can sympathis with you on this. One of my close friends is 4 years into an affair. We agreed to never talk about it about 3.5 years ago but she let something slip the other week that indicates to me that it is still ongoing - although neithe rof us acknowledged the slip of her tongue.

What is horrid is in the past 5 year I know of so many people having affairs! It seems to be a craze around here or some kind of mid life crisis on a mass scale.

I have seen people together, heard gossip,been told from the horses mouth about recent past affairs/liasons, ongoing affairs etc.

I have started to view nearly everyone I know with very different eyes and now wonder about probably innocent people!

I honestly feel like I am in the minority at the moment because I am not having an affair or ever been unfaithful to my husband.

There do seem to be hell of a lot of people who have had past affairs and liasons that just carry on - their other halves years later none the wiser (or so it seems from the outside)!

It's horrible every time we get together now husbands and all which we do regulary . We often have bbqs and outings in a group. I wish I'd never been told .

I would, lovingly, make it very clear to her that you don't approve in any way and don't wish to hear about it at all if she intends to continue with it. I would encourage her to explore why she is doing this and perhaps suggest that she sees a therapist to discuss.
I definitely wouldn't tell her DH.

whoops! Just realised that this thread is a couple of weeks old! Don't venture in WWYD very often!