Me and my partner are getting married at the end of august. Our surprise baby is due beginning of august. From the beginning of our relationship I always said if we get married I would want to keep my surname as my kids have my surname and I would need the biological dads permission to change it. He accepted that as his dad left when he was young and didn't want to carry on that surname. So he proposed some time later and the surname situation still was in place. Most of the wedding was planned and finalised, he said to me he doesn't want to be known as his surname when we get married so changed it 2 months ago to his mothers maiden name. The agreement was still we all would have the same name still he just didn't want to upset his mother by being known as his fathers name the day we get married. when I found out I was pregnant my partner is taking my surname you would assume the baby is to? My mil has gone and said such vile nasty things and trying to guilt trip him into now keeping his name to. Saying this baby will never been known as my name to them and that she will never forgive him if he allows it to happen, she said what's the point in even getting married if I won't take his name and let our baby have his name but his only been known legally as his name for 2 months. She's trying to control him. I said to him what does he want to do take me and his mum out the equation what does he want and he said he was to have the same name as everyone as then he would feel as part of a family unit. I said what ever he picks he will be part of this family unit no matter what his name is but he doesn't want to upset his mum as she keeps going on. She's saying it's me being controlling and he needs to stand up to me but what does he need to stand up to me about it's his choice?? With our unborn baby the choice of double barrelled isn't aloud as she doesn't want my name in there at all. It's my partners choice if he, himself wants my surname but our baby I would like either double barrelled or my name but what I don't want is lots of different surnames with the kids and us as I feel it would be confusing. His mum wants to "talk" to me but last she didn't like something she started having a go at me in front of my kids and made me cry so I know she will do the same. We only see them when we make the effort to drive up there. They have never made the effort to see us never been to our home so I don't see why she's making such a fuss when she doesnt even bother! Does anyone know what I should do? She still wants to talk to me? I have her grandchild who I want her to have a relationship with but I don't want to go round there if conflict is going to happen. Tia xx