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How much to charge family member for living with us

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Brambles34 · 03/04/2015 12:20

I'll try and keep this short....

Just moved house, DH, DS(1) and myself (pregnant) into a 3 bed house. We have ended up paying out a good few thousand more than we had planned and so have debts.

My DH uncle is selling his house (300 miles away) and is planning to move to our area. He has already sold and will be moving out in a few weeks. He wants to buy his next house at auction as he has the cash so can get a bargain but this could take a while.

His uncle is 'eccentric' and can easily wind anyone up after a short time. He's lived his entire adult life on his own with no relationships etc so not used to living with others. He dropped it on us that he plans plans to live with relatives in the meantime as he could rent but it's 'wasting money' he said that if he stayed with my MIL(in the huge 5 bed house) then he would pay her Â£100 a week 'as she could do with the money' whereas he would pay us with 'rugs and curtains' that he has collected over the years. We definitely do not have the same taste!! My MIL is mortgage free and goes on luxury holidays twice a year whereas I can't remember the last time we had a holiday and have a huge mortgage!

I was against him moving in but then we thought about it and if he was paying then we could use the money and it would be a sweet er so (hopefully) it wouldn't be so irritating having him here.

Question is.....how much? Was thinking Â£120 a week

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LaurieFairyCake · 03/04/2015 12:21

He sounds incredibly irritating

It will be a nightmare having him move in - don't do it!

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Brambles34 · 03/04/2015 12:22

120 would include food so the 100 he intended to pay MIL plus 20 for food. Does this sound ok? Too much/too little??

Also, there is no way in hell MIL would have him as her partner can't stand him!

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Izzy24 · 03/04/2015 12:23

Just.don't.do.it.

Seriously

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Brambles34 · 03/04/2015 12:52

Ha, yes that was my first thought too but could really do with the money. It would pay for decorating the house before baby gets here

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echt · 05/04/2015 05:49

Look at your OP, OP. He already thinks 100 pounds a week is sufficient and thinks rugs you don't want will do. he thinks renting is a waste.

He is a tightarse. As well as having form for annoying others.

Avoid.

textfan · 05/04/2015 06:43

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ivykaty44 · 05/04/2015 06:48

Don't do it

He will not understand why you don't want his own taste curtains and rugs, added to which he doesn't want to pay in cash he wants to pay in objects.

Renting a room with all bills included - the going rate here is 90 without and 125 with food, though not lunch

TheDietStartsTomorrow · 05/04/2015 06:53

£120 a week is a lot for me so I'd do it. I'd lay down some ground rules from the start and let him know clearly that he is expected to abide by them tot the letter. Take the money at the start of the week or even better, he can pay for 4 weeks upfront and also let him know that if things don't work you'll ask him to make other arrangements.

I, personally, would put up with him for that much. But that's because I'm skint and also need some extra cash so it's a sacrifice I'd make. I guess it all depends on much you need the money.

base9 · 05/04/2015 07:06

If you have a room to let out, do that. To a pleasant stranger. Don't let to the uncle.

paxtecum · 05/04/2015 07:14

Really, really, really do not do it.

We has lodgers may years ago thinking it would help with the bills and they were the loveliest people but it was awful.
It is hard living with the person you love.
It is almost impossible to live with anyone else.

Your home is your sanctuary from the world.
You don't need an eccentric, mean uncle in it with you.

paxtecum · 05/04/2015 07:23

Do you have an ensuite guest room?

If not, do you want to share your bathroom with Uncle's poo smells and be cleaning up his pubes off the floor.
Is he likely to clean the bath out?
Clean the sink after he has shaved?

Will he clean up after himself in the kitchen?

Imagine coming home from work to uncle in the sitting room watching tv.

Really, don't do it.

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Brambles34 · 06/04/2015 04:22

I've spoken to my husband and decided that we won't do it. I'm pregnant so can't be doing with the stress. We've been decorating so my house is currently looking lovely so although the money would come in handy to continue decorating, he could potentially annoy me with his messiness, walking outdoor shoes on my cream carpets after asking him not to etc etc. unfortunately we will be putting him up for a week or two as he is family and he'll be homeless but def not longer term!

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