Lazy husband

[thoughtsbecomethings]

My Dh has been off on holiday for nearly 2 weeks and has done absolutely nothing apart from walk the dog once s day. I have tried to discuss this but as usual there really is no response it's really peeing me off now. What does your Dh do when off on holiday ??

Op what happens if you just ask him bluntly to do a particular thing? My DH does not always think of things but if I just ask he does it, no argument or complaint involved.right now is a good example of this- I vacuumed the stairs and then asked him if he would do the upstairs. Later on I will hang out the washing and then probably ask him to make lunch for dd. He just doesn't think of it but instead of getting upset I just ask him!

Slightly he will do things if I ask but feel he does these and that's it wouldn't think of washing cars, cutting grass etc he would rather sit on laptop or jn front of tv. The house is looking shabby and needs lots of little jobs doing but he never does them.

I think you'll have to take the tactic of asking him. It doesn't really matter what he fancies doing all day; if stuff needs doing then you'll have to ask him. He might even get fed up of you asking and just do it

Mine took 4 days off didn't get out of bed til at least one. Two days it was 3. Didn't walk dogs which he usually does. I asked him to put three hooks up in kitchen for pictures . Did he do it did he hell.
I am dreading Easter weekend.

thoughtsbecomethings, I think we're married to the same man My dh is just the same, if he has time off he wants to relax, sit in front of the tv or on his phone, wouldn't dream of mowing the lawn or washing cars - ever! If I ask him to do something, he will usually do it, although puts some things off as long as possible like mowing the lawn and will only put the car through a car wash, rather than wash by hand, he never cleans inside the car. It drives me mad, but I can't have the discussion with him, because I feel like I'm nagging and being unreasonable and also he becomes very defensive. It's easier to do it myself most of the time. Plus I work less hours than he does and also work from home. No small children here, they can look after themselves now.

Pas you have my understanding. My Dh is working over Easter which as awful as it sounds makes my life easier

2fat4that omg I think they must be twins they sound identical and the way you handle it is the exact same way I do.
Do you seethe inside as I do ?
Nice to know I'm not the only one married to a lazy ass!!

I do seethe inside a lot of the time, but I'm also sad, because I don't think it's great to behave like this, but can't talk to him about it and suspect some day we may go our separate ways ... I do love him though.

Yes, I am also happy when dh is out and about, working or with his band practising, then I get on with what I need to do/want to do.

I share your sadness and have questioned if Dh is depressed. I think once kiddies have grown up we may go our separate ways too which is sad considering we've been together ages.

I don't think DH is depressed, although he is very bitter about what life has thrown at us recently. But I have to be honest, he has always been lazy, it's not such an issue when there are no children though, so I don't think I noticed it as much then.

Mine has been treated for depression but refuses to return to docs or do the cbt that was offered. Doesn't matter how nice or nasty I get he just won't go there.