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what would you do

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adeequa · 26/03/2015 09:43

long story short, i have three children with my ex, becouse of my disability the ss was involved when my first was born, but i had support system( husband) they fine with with us.
few years later we seperated and he told the ss he wasn't going to help the children in my house so he took me to court and got resident order. i got to see the children in school breaks.
met my current dh and fel pregnant. he got visa problems and couln't live with us so my child was placed in foster care. the ting is he lost all respect for me , he doesnt care for our dd, althougt we can't have unsuperviced contact before his visa is clear, there is no comunication in our marriage, he doesn't want to be with me. i know we're in difficult situation and i have told him how i feel.
i just feel he only wans to hang around until his visa is clear.
on other side, my ex is begging me to take him back so we can be family igain. althougt i don't love him, i'm thinking going back to him so i can be around in my childrens daily life.

i'm just sooo lost don't know what to do.
motherly advice will greatly appriciated

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 26/03/2015 14:40

Gosh that's a very difficult decision. What do you want to do? Do you want to be with either man?

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 26/03/2015 14:44

There's lots going on here, so I think you need to break it down into bits

Eg do you want to be with your current DH? If you think it really is just for the visa, you can separate and report to the immigration authorities now. Then whether to get back with your XDH is separate issue: do you think he is genuine?

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