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Cheating partner

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Halpinr · 07/03/2015 20:06

I just found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me for about a year. I'm trying to be practical and not overly emotional about this.

We have 6month old twin boys. And for the sake of our family I am willing to try and forgive him. He saw her once a month or less and says he did have feelings for her but it's over now.

How do I go about moving on and forgiving him. I am willing to really try for the sake of our boys, I don't want to bring them up in a broken home.

Advice please.

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HappyGoLuckyGirl · 07/03/2015 21:04

So sorry this has happened to you. Sad

I don't think I have any good advice for you because I found out the father of my son was cheating on me when our DS was 3weeks old. I tried with all my heart but we ended when DS was 9months.

I wish you all the best.

MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 21:28

Ive been in your shoes when my son was 12 months old. You can forgive but forgetting isnt an option, not possible. There's nothing to say he wont do it again but paranoia will eat you up and the trust never comes back to what it was beforehand. Whatever is best for you is whats best for your kiddies. If you separate you can still both be great parents.

UncommonSense · 07/03/2015 21:33

People are different, MummyB.

Just because you could not move on does not mean that is the case for everyone.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 21:47

I completely agree, and I did move on by eventually meeting my now husband who treats me with the respect I deserve. Everyone makes mistakes but unfortunately in that situation even though trust can re-build, its can never be completely re-built, its impossible as they have proven that. Its admirable if anyone can but leaves you vulnerable and wide open to be disrespected and used x

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Halpinr · 08/03/2015 07:13

Thanks mums, we had some really great talks last night, I genuinely believe he is remorseful and wants us to have a happy home together. But you are right about the forgetting thing. I saw pictures and videos of them together and now I can't unsee them. I guess only time will tell.

I just feel like such a mug right now, if it weren't for the boys I would have kicked him out yesterday!

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MummyBtothree · 08/03/2015 09:10

You're not a mug, you're being a good mum and doing what you feel is best and putting your children first x

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Halpinr · 08/03/2015 19:08

Thanks MummyB. Here's hoping that some things change in our relationship so that we are happy together again.

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iLoveMushrooms · 09/03/2015 14:16

he WILL do it again because he knows you will put up with it because you have children together mark my words

MummyBtothree · 09/03/2015 14:29

Cant help but agree I must admit. The having kids thing is often someones passport to using you as a doormat. They know the chances are they will be forgiven and their actions dont have consequences.

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