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stuck between a rock and a hard place, don't know what to do

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failingmydc · 06/03/2015 19:01

I've just discovered xh is hitting my dc when they're with him for contact. It's a slap or three when temper is raised, and can't control situation.

There's a history of dv, I fled 5.5 years ago. Court recently allowed overnight stayed, and it's all escalated to this. Dc have very obviously been threatened/manipulated to not say anything to anyone, so when it was under a family assistance order they said nothing, just talked about the positive.

I've reported to the police, police are bouncing on to ss. But our previous experiences of ss have been of unprofessional behaviour, lying, and generally being useless. The most recent sw admitted that xh would have to hurt the dc before something would be done. On one occasion dd1 disclosed that xh had threatened to kill me, I was unaware until I obtained the dc's files. Turned out it was flagged to be addressed, but nothing was done. When I resided it the sw went back to xh, asked him about it, and dd1 experienced horrid reprisals, so in our eyes, ss are worse than useless.

There's no way on this earth I want to send the dc back to stay with xh now that I know the risk of violence is actual, not my fear, bit I don't know what to do. The presence of a court order leaves me even more stuck.

Wwyd? I don't know what to do

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26Point2Miles · 06/03/2015 21:26

You will have to trust ss. But how about cafcass?

26Point2Miles · 06/03/2015 21:27

Oh, and kids school? Make as big a fuss as you can

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 06/03/2015 21:30

Can you get legal advice about the court order?

Sounds a horrid situation and your children shouldn't have to put up with that.

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