How to respond to crap "in my day..." baby advice?!

[Flingmoo]

Currently staying with DH's family, got a 9 month old baby and getting fed up with the 'advice' now! Usually food related. Examples:

In response to current advice which says no more than 1g of salt a day for babies: "We gave all my children and grandchildren lots of salty food when they were babies and they came out fine!"

"I'll make him some warm sugary milk, that's what he wants when he wake up crying in the night!" I'll admit this one was quite sweet. DS woke up around midnight probably due to teething pain, was screaming for quite a while, DH's 75 yr old nan comes upstairs in her frilly nightgown with a bottle of warm cows milk (he's breastfed!), I tested a bit and it was the sweetest thing I've ever tasted, god knows how much sugar she added!

Also today DH got very angry with his nan for giving baby a piece of bread slathered in honey after he strictly told her the day before that babies mustn't have honey.

None of this particularly enrages me, they do mean well, it's just a bit annoying after a while when they insist on going against current advice...

Since my then 65 year old father told me off for not rubbing my nipples daily with surgical spirit to prepare for breastfeeding, I ignore all this crap!

Evil StepMIL got really shirty when DSIL wouldnt eat quiche when pg though.

It ought to enrage you. Honey can be fatal for babies!

I would just say, we are following the current guidelines. If they are so arrogant that they think they know better then don't let the baby out of your/dhs sight.

I just used to mutter about it being the norm in the old days to send kids up chimneys.

Isn't it a hindhu custom to give babies honey in religious ceremony?

YY to all the above. My MIL insists that DP was potty trained at 15 months and had the MMR vaccine ( in 1963). just smile and say " Uhuh"

GlitzandGiggles nothing to do with ' I hate all the "oh we didn't have all this choice when we were kids" comments. That's because you grew up in the stone age now shut up many years ago where shops hadn't evolved as much'

re choice - whatever was available (and we aren't talking the 1950s here, more like the 80s) we didn't think we needed to give our toddlers/children a choice as to what to have for their meal. eg nowadays it seems that the conversation goes 'would you like pasta or fish fingers' for your lunch? Duh. Why give them a choice. You are not running a restaurant!

Anyway I just keep my mouth shut. It's simpler. Didn't know about the honey danger though. That's interesting. What happens if a baby is given honey?

Honey has been linked to infant botulism