invite for my child to go to school classmates house

[Justme1978]

I'm sure lots of parents have been in this situation, my yr 2 son has been invited to his classmates house but I'm not really comfortable with him going to this particular child's house as he & his younger brother are the type to swear & I've seen the nan who picks them up stand by & watch when one of them are playing rough in the playground, they have no discipline whatsoever, really not the type I'd like to mix with without sounding horrible, he has gone round a few other friends house but only those who's parents I know to talk to, I really don't know what to say without being obvious I don't want my son to go, what would you do??

Terribly sorry we have already made plans for that day and then invite him to yours where you can keep a close eye on them. You don't know what the situation is at home and it's a shame to totally shun his friendship.

Thanks for the reply, my son doesn't want to particularly go to this boys house either so it is a bit akward but I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings by saying my son doesn't want yo go to your house but maybe what you said about inviting them over to mine might be the best bet but knowing my luck they will want to return the favour & ask my son to go over the following week!! Am I a bit paranoid in feeling uneasy about letting my child go to another child's house who's parents I don't know? I feel it's a real tricky situation because you don't want to come across as being overprotective or make another parent feel akward that I don't want my child going to their house & letting them go to other children's houses

I think you just need to say no, thankyou. Perhaps explain that ds is a real homebody and doesn't feel comfortable unless he knows people well? You have asked and he isn't sure..... so can we leave it a while personally I would not be offended by this, the child has to feel comfortable.

Your instincts are saying no, I personally wouldn't go against them.

It's an invite not a summons.

Stop fretting. Just say you have other plans, maybe another day.