Having a panic about moving closer to family

[IrritableBitchSyndrome]

We are selling our house and moving to the same town as my family. When we came up with this plan it seemed as though the benefits would be worth it. I would be closer to elderly parent to provide support, my children would have more family locally, my husband would be in a good location for career progression and social life. I keep getting feelings of dread that I will lose all my lovely local friends and social life, and spend my life at the beck and call of my various family members, who have very strong personalities, and in some cases, probably strong personality disorders. I want to go back to be there for them, but I'm afraid they could take over my life if I do! Any advice?

Set yourself set days in the month that you meet friends for coffee, lunch or dinner. E.g every Monday is coffee with Sarah. Get yourself a diary and write in when you are meeting someone. If it's writen down it feels official and harde to cancel. Be assertive and have a line you use. Sorry that day is inconvenient and then give them a alternative. Never have a set day you see them. If you do they will cause a fuss when you don't. Keep strong !