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Is he just not that into me??!

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Tulip1011 · 06/02/2015 07:35

So I started seeing a guy from tinder about 5 weeks ago. We had 3 really great dates - drinks only - seemed to get on well and he confided personal things to me and seemed interested in me as a person. There was a fair amount of kissing and we had an amazing chemistry. Unfortunately I was only 6 weeks out of last (3yr) relationship and told him that on first date and that my head wasnt sorted about it. But then I started to really like him. I told him on third date that I didn't want a fling and he said ok well we'll have to get to know each other better, let's meet up in the week. I text him next day to arrange meeting up...he didnt reply for a day then said "I feel we're looking for different things". I said what are you looking for? And he said "I don't have the emotional energy - yet - for the next proper relationship. But I don't want a fling either. So I'm in the middle for a while". I said ok I'm not really ready either, do you want to meet up when we're both more settled or just leave it? He says "how about we see where we are in a month or so, what do you think?". That was 3 weeks ago. I text him twice since about neutral things we were talking about snd he has replied in a polite way but not messaged me first. Last time was a week ago. Basically do I need to just let this one go or is he being sensible?? Any chance he actually likes me?!

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Tulip1011 · 06/02/2015 07:36

Oh and he hasnt been on tinder for a month

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scarletforya · 06/02/2015 07:43

Let it go I'd say. You can't keep someone in a holding pattern for a month. He obviously used it as meaning 'see you later, maybe never'.

Judge people by what they do, not what they say. He's not around= he's not interested.

Also, isn't Tinder just a hook up thing? Sounds to me that he just wanted fun, regardless of what he said.

AnyFucker · 06/02/2015 07:44

I would stop contacting him now and leave the ball in his court

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Tulip1011 · 06/02/2015 07:49

I just don't get it. He seemed so nice. We even talked about tinder being used for hook ups and how we both weren't looking for that. Argh.

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DropYourSword · 06/02/2015 07:50

If he's not contacting you, he's not into you. Don't drag it out, find someone who deserves you.

Optimist1 · 06/02/2015 08:28

I'm convinced that some men operate a system whereby if they haven't got what they want after three dates you're history.

McSqueezy · 06/02/2015 09:59

Sounds like he's met someone else. Stop contacting him, if he was interested you would know it 100%

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