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Neighbours/Police

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MrsCs · 25/01/2015 19:11

When we had our little boy we moved to a much nicer area (much research involved in this) and for most of our first year here it has been great. Recently (last three weeks) though our neighbours seem to have allowed their grown up son to move home.

I am aware this is going to sound horribly judgemental but he looks like 'trouble'. He clearly doesn't work, bangs doors constantly and has a tattoo on his face. He has friends pulling up regularly, tooting their horn and then heading off.

Over the past week though the Police have been at the door twice talking to him!! It's making me so angry! This is a NICE place that I chose to be safe to bring up my children. No one else round here behaves like that :(.

I don't suppose there is even anything I can do but hope he goes away soon. Really upsetting me though :(

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MrsCs · 25/01/2015 20:50

No advice :(?

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MummyBtothree · 29/01/2015 08:44

Without sounding awful hun thats nothing compared to what some people have to suffer. My hubby got made redundant & our house got repo'd. The only option at the time was to accept the first house we were offered by the council. The house was lovely, neighbours not so much. We were surrounded by anti-social behaviour, my hubby got threatened with a knife in his face for having a go at someone trying to damage the car...and too much more to mention. To have our kids living there killed us inside. Thank god we are now completely out of the area & happy. My advice is try to get it into petspective a but hun.

LaurieFairyCake · 29/01/2015 08:59

I'm not entirely seeing what the problem is

He looks like trouble but none has happened?

The police came to talk to me yesterday (asking if I'd seen a car round our way) - really doesn't make me a Crim

Goneintohibernation · 29/01/2015 09:03

Why is it upsetting you so much? It doesn't sound like he has done anything wrong, bar a few banging doors. If that is the worst of it then I really don't see the problem. The police do speak to people for a lot of reasons, it doesn't mean he's a criminal. I take it they didn't drag him off in handcuffs?

mamato3luvleys · 29/01/2015 09:05

That's nothing compared to where we live....
Police are round here every night me and my dp hate bringing up our children here but our house is lovely! When we close the door it's our palace and we tend to just get on with life it's nothing to do with us what happens in this area and our kids are getting brought up properly.
When we first moved here 7 years ago my ds was 4 and my dd 2 the then neighbours thought we were really posh because my kids had (and still have )manners!!

PinkSquash · 29/01/2015 09:05

It's not as if he's terrorising you is it?

magpieginglebells · 29/01/2015 09:05

I can't decide if this is a joke thread or not. How dreadful for your poor children living next door to someone with a tattoo. The police came to talk to us the other day regarding parking issue. I didn't think of my poor neighbours, they must be devastated.

ThatBloodyWoman · 29/01/2015 09:07

Oh ffs.
Get a grip.

sliceofsoup · 29/01/2015 09:15

Moving to a nice area is no guarantee.

Right now we live in a council estate that has a really bad reputation locally. Our row of houses is full of families that are good, kind people who keep themselves to themselves. We have had police at our door (DH had a minor driving thing he had to go to court for) and they have been to the neighbours doors too.

The last "not nice" area I lived in my neighbours were batshit crazy, but they still left me alone and I them.

When I lived in nice areas, 3 in total, my neighbours were interfering busy bodies that reported each other for such nonsensical things. One woman actually gave the previous tenants of our house a book on parenting. They were constantly complaining about noise that wasn't happening, because their special snowflake son needed to sleep. But then made as much racket as they liked when it suited them.

Give me the "not nice" areas any day. Sometimes we even get to see drug raids, which is a bit of entertainment. The thing about living here is the police and community are on top of the drugs and antisocial behaviour. IME nicer areas are overlooked in this respect. My kids are no less safe here than anywhere else.

So tbh I think you need to pull your knickers out of your arse and just live and let live.

YeahDamon · 29/01/2015 11:00

I live in a very nice area, in a big expensive detached house on a private road.

I have tattoos.

My neighbours must be GUTTED.

sliceofsoup · 29/01/2015 11:10

FFS YeahDamon. You are so selfish.

mammuzzamia · 29/01/2015 11:15

I think you're being ridiculous. He hasn't actually done anything wrong.

Redglitter · 29/01/2015 11:25

Exactly what kind of advice were you looking for?

CatsClaus · 29/01/2015 11:28

hmmm you move into the area and now there are tattooed yobbos and police cars

coincidence??

Get the hell over yourself dearie!

magpieginglebells · 29/01/2015 11:32

I'd move out if Yeahdamon lived next door. I have a baby, I just can't have her growing up with a tattooed neighbour. Surely children with neighbours with tattoos are more likely to end up in prison?

sliceofsoup · 29/01/2015 11:52

There is absolutely no hope for my children. DH has a several tattoos and one is on is neck!!! Shock

trufflenut · 29/01/2015 12:04

I'm afraid you are sounding horribly judgemental MrsC, you might not like the adults your children become and find the boot is on the other foot

MummyBtothree · 29/01/2015 17:28

Lol my husband and I have body piercings & tattoo's, and both have them on our necks!!!!. Our poor kids....not!. Neither have criminal records, bring our kids up in a crack den or go round robbing grannies. My oooh my!!!! Angry Angry Angry Angry

Lifesalemon · 29/01/2015 18:16

I pay a young girl with tattoos and piercings to give my daughter drugs.
I would love it if she moved in next door.
She's actually her carer, she's lovely, and the drugs are prescribed medication. Grin
I think she actually went out with a policeman for a while too.

Sukie272 · 21/02/2015 18:22

Oh dear, bun-throwing alert!
Why are people giving the OP a hard time?

MrsCs you have my sympathy, and I'm sure many people would be frustrated if they found themselves in same situation.
When you move to a nice area you pay for the privilege and you expect to feel safe, especially if you've chosen it as a safe environment to raise children. It's not the same as choosing to live on a council estate with a bad reputation, where you can't really expect much!

How old is your neighbour's son? Do you think he is there permenantly or just back for a long visit? If he's between jobs he might just be staying until he gets himself sorted.

I would also be concerned if my neighbour had a tattoo on his face! Tattoos in general are fine, but anyone who chooses to get one on their face clearly has no intention of following a professional career path, as a face-tattoo makes you very unemployable. They are banned in most professions. Face tattoos are also associated with gang culture, prison culture, drug culture and low level of education (these are statistics not my personal thoughts). Someone who chooses to tattoo their face either has no idea they will be negatively judged by most of the population, or they want to intimidate.

I recommend speaking to your neighbours (his parents not him) and try to dig for more information eg how long he is staying. Then mention that his door-banging and friends tooting car-horns is disturbing you. You could say you're a bit concerned about the police visits too and ask if everything's ok. Some of your other neighbours are probably concerned as well, so if the problems persist you could work together to tackle it. If his parents realise he's making people uneasy and disturbing neighbours they might get him to tone-down his behaviour a bit. Or maybe they are also hoping he'll leave soon!

edamsavestheday · 21/02/2015 18:33

Sukie nice parody Grin

Sukie272 · 21/02/2015 19:02

Edam... There was no parody or satirical intent... I was being serious.

Aridane · 21/02/2015 20:03

I'm with Sukie

OddFodd · 21/02/2015 20:13

Nice bumping of your cheerleader's old thread there sukie.

You both seem to have neighbour problems. Weird, that.

PUGaLUGS · 21/02/2015 20:14

I live in a nice area, nice house.

Police came to my door in a big bloody police wagon on a Sunday afternoon!

I was witness to a driver running into another car and then driving off. I reported it and they came to take my statement.