I need a workable plan please!

[BeggarsCantBeChoosers]

DH has decided that DS (aged 4) can't have night time drinks when brushing his teeth because DS wet his bed twice in the past month.

The first wet bed was likely because DS had fallen asleep in the car at 6:30, and because he'd recently had a toilet (5:30), nobody woke him to toilet him, but just put him straight to bed. Probably our fault, not his.

The second episode DS woke himself as he was peeing and managed to stop himself, but DH changed the bed seeing as it had a wet patch, but it wasn't sodden.

I think I'd stand with him more fully if: a) DS hasn't had a cup of water after brushing teeth for the past year and never wet the bed, and b) there wasn't a good reason for the first bed-wetting incident.

I am in the middle of an MS relapse though, so am not much use to anyone atm. I'm sleeping all day and waking up for a bit of MS on my phone or an iplayer programme, but not a lot else.

DH took DS out today and I suggested he takes a beaker of water for DS, as, if DH is going to restrict night-time fluid, then he needs to be responsible for supplying more daytime drinks. DH said he didn't need to bother as he'd make sure DS had a drink out.

Come dinner time I asked DS how many drinks he'd had, and he said none. DH got shitty and said he'd just forgotten, but still refused to allow DS to have an extra drink at bedtime.

DH is very forgetful and I am worried that DS won't get enough fluids. I can't do much about it myself as I had to be in bed while they were out today, yet as the other parent, I feel a responsibility to fight their corner. Just don't know how. So WWYD?

Have you had a look on the ERIC website? There might be something on there that you can show your DH about the importance of lots of daytime drinks to train the bladder to hold more fluid at night. They used to have fluid charts on there as well so a child could tick off how many drinks they had in a day. I haven't been on it for a while but it might be worth a look.

Sorry you're not well at the moment. I wouldn't personally give DS a whole cup of water after teeth, but agree that your H should provide plenty of drinks in the day. Also sounds like your H is making a big deal out of the bed wetting when unless ds is older it's par for the course! Fluids important for health. Perhaps do things to make it easier if he wets the bed, eg spare sheets and plastic basket easily accessible, waterproof undersheets

Your h shouldn't really have to have importance of enough drinks explained to him, it's a pretty basic part of taking adequate care of DC. Nor should he be prioritising inconvenience of changing bedclothes and Pjs over DS getting enough to drink. Not "get shitty" if you pull him up on it, especially when you're unwell so unable to do these things for DS yourself.

Thanks for the website fairgame, I will take a look.

I agree Surreyblah that DH is making a mountain out of a molehill. I was wincing when I heard him give DS a guilt trip. Need to talk to him about that too later. We do have waterproof sheets though, so really it's not a drama.

If you are worried I would lift him for a wee before you go to bed. I did this with my ds when he was small. He seemed to be more of a bed wetter than my dd.