move home or not?

[melmo26]

We are in two minds about moving and I would genuinely like to know what others would choose.

We live in a small village about 15 minutes walk from the school, downhill there,uphill back. Pretty steep. We didn't even consider this an issue when we moved her 1 year ago. TBH it didn't even enter our minds. Dd4 has cerebral palsy affecting her right side, she walks well but not for long distances, not great on different terrains. She is still young and has not started nursery yet, she is nearly 2 so only a year away. We know that she won't be able to walk to school, spend 6 hours at school and walk home meaning she will need 1 of us to drop off and collect in the car. So to move to somewhere nearer a school would completely benefit her.

We have 3 other older DC's who all enjoy the school, have settled really well and made friends. Dc2 doesn't settle with new places normally but has really came out of herself since moving here and has made a few friends now. Dc3 has just started nursery and after a shaky start is now enjoying it. Dc1 is very laid back and just slots in. But they all do enjoy it here.

So here is my WWYD would you move to make life that little bit easier for your child with the disability, uprooting the others who are settled, or would you stay put?

Dh and I are not agreeing on this so I would really appreciate any input, Thanks

Have you ascertained whether your child with cp would qualify for transport due to her disability as that may affect your decision? Personally if she doesn't qualify for transport I would move closer to the school.

I would move. But then I moved schools 6 times when I was growing up (and I'm not particularly social or relaxed so never just slotted in) and it was ok, so that probably colours my thinking on this, re moving your other kids. I think independence when you have a physical disability is really important, and it might help your DD grow up feeling less "different" if she can do things like walk to school.

Stay put, and investigate transport.

Hi sorry never came back I thought no one answered {blush}

Dd won't get transport as school is in the village,somuch that is exactly our thinking making dd4 feel less different than she already is, at the same time the older 3 are settled here. We really don't know what to do but I think we are swaying to making things easier for dd, I just feel so guilty, will our other 3 resent us/dd for moving!