Move house or stay put

[Janeyspamey]

Hi. sorry - bit long! I hope you can help me sort my head out on this. I live with my dh and 2dd in a small mid terrace property in the south east. We have felt for some time that we've outgrown the property and should move though we love our neighbours, the house itself and it's very convenient for school, nursery and work : I can cycle to all three in under twenty minutes. The dilemma is that while I have just been made permanent at my company my dh has been on contracts for the last two and a half years with the same company but with no guarantees of length of contract each time. We could move to somewhere bigger locally just on my salary but obviously if we waited until he got something permanent we would financially have more options. He says he'd like to wait a bit longer as a permanent job should be coming up in the next couple of months whereas I think we should just move as we've been in limbo for such a long time and it's getting frustrating. We could afford similar repaymentd on a larger property as we've been overpaying on ours currently. WWYD?

If it were me, I would put a timescale on it. Give your DH until the end of December (as an example) and then if no permanent job is looming, look to move using just your salary.

Hi Janeyspamey

I did type out a longer reply but page crashed. As the above poster has said put a time scale on it. My suggestion was also to see if you can find out how likely it is that he will be offered a full time contract. If its been verbally spoken about meetings ect and its a good possibility then you may feel a little more comfortable staying where you are for a bit longer. As you said it is convenient to school nursery's and work.

Also if you was to move now, and then say in 4 months he was to receive the contract you may regret it as you would be in a better position to have chosen somewhere more suitable with both your salary's. which would mean more upheaval later on.

I do understand though the frustration of wanting to move from a property you have outgrown. We also want to try for a baby. This will have to wait until we have moved as no exaggeration we would be pushed to find room for a Moses basket never mind a cot. I don't to be in a position of moving while i am pregnant as I had an early mc so want to try and avoid any stress. We have had to put off moving due to news about his contract with work and various other reasons.

I know its not the same for you as your children are very much already there. Just wanted you to know I understand the frustration

I wish you luck and hope he gets the contract soon. hope this helped :)

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Hi. thank you for your comments. I think putting a time limit is a good idea and I think he'll agree to that

IW, I hope you get you situation sorted out soon too