Me and dh went to visit his parents a couple of weeks ago with our 1 month old ds. At first only mil was there and we were sat chatting in the dining room. She left the room for a bit and I started breastfeeding a hungry ds. When mil came back in the room she didn't really comment beyond "is he feeding?" or something like that.
I stopped thinking he'd finished but he clearly wanted more. I started to latch him back on when we heard the front door opening. It was fil, their daughter my sil and her dh. My dh went out the room to greet them.
None of them could see me as I was still in the dining room. Mil hissed at me "do it discreetly" and then went out the room holding the door shut and telling them I was feeding. I took a while to get him latched on because I felt really nervous/upset at her tone. By the time I had, a few of them, lead by my dh, had entered the room. Everyone followed in and I don't think anyone realised she had been trying to stop them.
I felt upset at the time but after we got home felt angry. I'm not an extrovert by any stretch and I am discreet. We are supposed to be visiting again and I'm feeling nervous. If ds wants to eat should I leave the room? Part of me wants to say to dh I'm not going somewhere I feel uncomfortable feeding my son. I haven't told him what happened.
Should I have left the room or asked her permission in the first place? I'm sure I am being oversensitive but the way she said it made me feel like crap.