Divorce - how can I support my son and daughter-in-law.

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Any help or advice would be welcome. I adore both my son and daughter-in-law, they have two young boys, and my son has been having an affair and over the years has been very off-hand with his family and my lovely daughter-in-law. Now he feels remorse, but too late.

Oh how tough!
I think you're wonderful for getting on with your daughter in law, and recognising your sons faults.
I think the main person right now is your daughter in law, and the grandchildren. She will be needing the most support as she has to carry on being 'mum'.
I know it may seem to drive a wedge between you and your son if it looks like you're taking sides, so try not to. But explain to your son that whats done is done, and if he truly feels remorse to try and make this break up as smooth and easy as humanly possible for his wife and children.
But also try not to be hurt or surprised if your daughter in law chooses to pull away. She may feel a slight disconnect from you as you'll remind her of your son. Take your time with her and let her know you're there for her and the children in whatever she needs to do.

I'm no expert, but that is what I would like if I were in her boots :)

Chelle x