Hi, need a bit of advice.
First of all, though I get on with my mum ok wish, the relationships in my family are 'delicate' Otherwise it wouldn't be so hard being honest.
Well, both my parents were hoarders. Nothing has changed since my dad died 2 years ago. The house is still jam packed with stuff. My mum can't even see her bedroom floor. The kitchen is horrendous. The worst thing is not so much the junk but the unleanliness. She leaves mouldy stuff around for days, doesn't wash up for days and leaves food about in the heat just piled on top of something else. The floor is just gross.
I really can't explain how gross it really is.
After a 4 hour journey it is quite tiring to Coe to somewhere and have to start washing up straight away!
She gives excuses all the time like she hasn't had time, had a busy week or has been away.
Anyway, I have worked my arse off just leaning since I've been there but 5 hours later it's the same. She cooks a lot but just doesn't bother doing the rest.
Yesterday I got a really nasty tummy bug, felt awful and said that was enough. I left, without really explaining why, gave an excuse and now I'm back to square one with dh!
Anyway we all left home years ago but recently I had a difficult time with my dh and I went to sty with her with my three young children.
Both my sisters feel exactly the same but they won't say because she will just get all defensive and react badly we are sure.
Her friends feel the same they have hinted.
I just don't think I can go back there with the kids, it's so disgusting.
Is there any way around this?
Ps, she can be extremely manipulative and gets upset over the smallest ratings.
Wwyd?