how do I deal with my sons dad not feeding him in visits?

[gemsjams4eva]

My son is 5 years old and sees his dad fortnightly on Saturdays 9.00am till 6.00 pm and fortnightly Fridays after school 3.15 till 6.00pm. These are the contact arrangements made by court order. Over the time he has been having contact with our son he has been smoking around pur son and not feeding him properly half the time. We had words woth him about it a few times but he is obviously is not listening and today my son came back and I got told he had a chip button at 2.00pm but nothing else and used the hot weather we have been having as an excuse for not feeding him. I don't want to stop the Saturday contacts and risk getting arrested for breeching the contact order. I think he has not much money from spending it on his alcohol addiction. Can I take it back to court myself and how? Or do I ring the social care about it? I feel stuck and I don't know what I'm suppose to do :(

Could you send food with him e.g. a packed lunch, something to reheat, etc

hi .i don,t really have much experience of this .but i would think you could maybe go to court to stop contact if thats what you think best .this is neglect but on the other hand if he is generally kind then maybe just give him something for his tea say some cooked mince and potatoes to heat up .i know i will probably get a row from others for suggesting such pandering .but maybe your ex hubby is trying and just not coping with making meals .the smoking around your little one is not on .

I would not want to totally stop it but if he can't keep up with feeding him properly then I'd just want to reduce the Saturday contact a few hours so then he would be home in time for his tea with us. As for smoking, I don't know what I can do.

It should really be his dads responsibility when he is with his dad during that time to feed him. He is ment to be a responsible parent to be able to feed him when he needs to.