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speak to mum, question the child?

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OorWullie · 24/07/2014 21:09

Our neighbour loves DS(4), her kids are grown up and moved out and she often brings him an ice lolly or a small toy as a treat when she feels like it.

This morning she brought him a plastic pot with "frog spawn" in it that is supposed to grow into a frog or something. It said £1.50 next to the barcode so not expensive to replace.

DS had it out in the garden in a big plastic bowl, he had been playing with it in the garden then came in for dinner, leaving the bowl and the empty pot on the windowsil outside. One of the neighbours' kids came to the door and I said I'd send him out when he'd finished eating. She was mucking about in the garden for a few minutes then never came back. DS is in bed and I've just gone to bring his toys inside, a flower the girl was carrying is lying on the windowsil and the bowl has been emptied of frog spawn and the little pot is gone. It's fairly obvious the girl (nearly 7) has taken it and she has tried to "keep" things of DS' before.

DS was quite taken on with it and excited about it growing into a frog, he's not going to be happy when he discovers it's missing in the morning. I can probably replacenit if i find out where neighbour got it, but I don't think I should need to worry about him leaving toys in his own garden without them being stolen. She'll probably be around tomorrow and I could ask her (nicely) if she borrowed it and forgot to bring it back, but from what I know of her she'll probably lie. It feels like I'm making a big deal out of such a cheap item but I don't think the value matters, she took it without asking and imo is probably old enough to know better and stealing is wrong whether the item costs a penny or a hundred pounds.

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Iggly · 24/07/2014 21:11

Yes ask her. It is a lesson for you - don't leave her unattended if you know she's like this. And it might be a lesson for her.

OorWullie · 24/07/2014 21:29

I didn't really expect her to hang about, I said bye to her and shut the door and thought she would just go off and play. Obviosuly I'll be more careful about what DS leaves outside in future and I'll stand at the door till she disappears.

I just don't know if it's worth bringing up, her mother just laughs alot of things off, the same girl painted all over some of my property last year and her mum just laughed.... I'm a bit of a pushover and tend to just leave things but trying to change that and if it was DS i'd make him return it and say sorry at least.

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OorWullie · 25/07/2014 08:56

As expected, DS is in tears.

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ophiotaurus · 25/07/2014 09:01

I would speak to the mother.

LiberalLibertines · 25/07/2014 09:09

Take ds to get some more.

When little girl comes round, explain you know she took it, and if she keeps telling things without asking, she won't be allowed to play anymore. You don't have to be nasty about it, but she needs telling and is old enough for that sort of conversation.

LiberalLibertines · 25/07/2014 09:10

*taking things

OorWullie · 25/07/2014 09:36

To be honest this is the last straw in a long line of minor things, I don't think I want to let DS out with her any more if I can help it.

I wonder if I'd be better off speaking to the mum, though I feel she'll laugh it off as she has done with everything else.

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Iggly · 25/07/2014 21:18

Talk to the girl. It probably shock her. What's the point/talking to the mum if the mum laughs it off?

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