How do you tell mum her kids can't play with mine because of lice..

[madchocolatemum48]

My daughters friend has lice, which my dd and myself now have........
I met the mum and asked if she knew. Yes and she was dealing with it. She then starts looking through her youngest hair, complaining about these "centipede looking little bugs in her hair"
I said that she probably has lice too. Pretty obvious in my opinion really.
"No, these are just bugs from the garden" she said
She has told me she shampooed once with Nit shampoo, but hasn't used a nit comb or treated anyone else int he family.
Needless to say dd and I have head lice now.
I am really annoyed that she didn't tell me about dd when they played together twice last week AND she isn't dealing with the situation.
How to I tell her that her kids can't play with mine?
How do I know they don't have lice without doing a head check at the door?

Just say you are not available.

Or that you are opting out of playdates for a while due to the prevalence of lice.

"Sorry I do not wish to have play dates until you effectively treat your families head lice"

Job done

Or you just comb the buggers out for years.

It depends on the DCs family situation, our bug bearer was been brought up by barely compitant and only just sober extended family, she had enough to cope with, without moaning about the lice.

Did she even know last week?
Maybe suggest using vinegar as a treatment too?
I don't know her situ, but the nit shampoo is£10 a bottle.
That doesn't go far with three kids.
I was really embarrassed a Few weeks ago. Was going through a very difficult time with dh, sickness etc. ( have 3 under 5) and I was so busy, I didn't even notice dd 2 had them before my hairdresser neighbour told me (luckily she is a friend.... still!)
I immediately got them all treated and told the other mums but I guess being so busy with other probs I just wasn't paying attention.
I felt awful ??

Maybe she is in denial? (my dh was, even though he never even touches their hair!) what, nits? No, not my children!!!

I felt like a terrible mother though!

Just say your's got lice again and you want to make sure you got them all.

I would just be honest with her and say until she's sorted the situation out then they won't be playing together.

Also I think you can get free headlice treatment for children using the minor ailments scheme. Sorry I can't do clicky links m.boots.com/mt/www.boots.com/en/Pharmacy-Health/Health-pharmacy-services/Pharmacy-services-support/I-need-more-information/Minor-ailments-service-NHS/#un_jtt_addtohome_hidden