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Really dont know what to do. social services.

32 replies

Katie911 · 16/07/2014 15:01

So, after manys of years of not drinking.. i had my first night out at the weekend. Long story short. My husband fell through a glass door in our house when we got home. My sister in law had been babysitting until then. Police where called and I jokingly said i had done it. Although he told the police it wasnt me.

Sounds verrry silly now.

Anyways the police sent a report of domestic violence through to social services. I had a woman phone me yesterday and I am currently waiting on her to phone me back.

I am driving myself insane googling to find out whats going to happen, and the only answer I can get is that the 'abusive parent' ie. me.. would have to leave the family in order for them to leave the family alone. Im really at my wits end here. I feel like an absolute failure. All over a silly prank!

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ILoveTIFFANY · 16/07/2014 15:04

Well there must be more to it?

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 16/07/2014 15:04

Why were the police called? Were you very drunk? Seems like a bit of a stupid thing to say to a police officer attending an accident.

NorwaySpruce · 16/07/2014 15:05

I'm assuming there is a history, what with the many years of not drinking and a SIL who believes you'd throw someone through a glass door?

All you can do is go along with SS. Putting up a fight and telling them that the whole thing was a silly prank with make them think the worst.

If this is really the first contact you've ever had with SS, a phone call might be where it ends, and all will be well.

ILoveTIFFANY · 16/07/2014 15:07

I guess you should be prepared and have somewhere to go? In case

NorwaySpruce · 16/07/2014 15:08

Sorry, think I read that a bit wrong, thought SIL had called the police!

All the same, just go along with SS.

Original poster
Katie911 · 16/07/2014 15:09

A neighbour who heard the smash called the police as he apparently thought we had been broken into. This is the first time ive ever had SS on my case over anything. I was verrry drunk, as i said i hadnt drank in years, and defintly never will again!!

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Rivercam · 16/07/2014 15:10

Why don't you simply tell the truth that husband fell through the door, you both had some drink and that's all there is to it. Why was the police called? Seems a bit strange. Who called them?

AnyFucker · 16/07/2014 15:10

what ?

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 16/07/2014 15:11

Look at it from the police's point of view. Two parents so drunk that one fall through a glass window and one rather than sobering up quite quickly after the accident and arrival of the police makes a joke that she had done it? All whilst the children were in the house.

I'm not saying you deserve social services on your door step but i think you are going to have to take norways advice and be very cooperative. If there is no previous history hopefully this will blow over.

Rivercam · 16/07/2014 15:11

I think ifs the first cads then you have nothing to worry about. Sounds like an over zealous policeman

ILoveTIFFANY · 16/07/2014 15:11

I guess parents in charge of children whilst drunk and incapable will be a factor

Rivercam · 16/07/2014 15:11

Case not cads

BertieBotts · 16/07/2014 15:15

Slow down, stop googling, you'll just get into a panic.

If you are not abusive then social services are not going to make you leave the home. But you can see, surely, why they have concerns? Obviously you'll have to explain it was an accident and you were joking when you said it was you but they also need to know that you take it very seriously.

Can you give any more backstory? For example why were the police called, do you have a history of alcohol problems, how did DH fall through the door?

BertieBotts · 16/07/2014 15:17

Not overzealous, just procedure. If domestic violence is disclosed where children are present SS have to be involved. It doesn't matter if it's a joke, that's like running into an airport saying "Look out, I've got a bomb in my suitcase! LOL sorry just kidding!"

TheGirlFromIpanema · 16/07/2014 15:18

So your neighbour heard a smash noise and called the police as you thought you were being broken into.

When the police subsequently attended you told them (jokingly) that you had pushed him through the glass door.

Is that a correct summary?

Pretty stupid thing to say to the police. Was your husband injured? What did the police say at the time?

I'm thinking that it is unusual for police to actually turn up to a suspected break-in (bitter experience) although I do know they prioritise calls about suspected dv (good experience). I was never concerned they would call SS about either though. Did anything else happen that night that you can recall?

TheGirlFromIpanema · 16/07/2014 15:20

as they thought, sorry. Not you.

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Katie911 · 16/07/2014 15:21

Yeah. of course i understand why they are looking into it. The police where called by a neighbour who thought our house had been broken into when he heard the smash. (Shows how unlikely he thought it would be that we would still be up) ..

Husband tripped over the childs toilet seat/stand thing and fell into the hallway door, its got two glass panes and one smashed. It did make a massive shatter and was probably heard from miles away.

No never any problems with alcohol, just never really was a drinker.

No police history of any sort. We are a quiet family with three boys..

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GarlicJulyKit · 16/07/2014 15:29

Well, you're a twit and all you need to do is explain very apologetically. I'm really pleased to hear the police have followed up on possible domestic abuse - you can imagine how many violent partners have said "we were just horsing around."

Nice to know your neighbour looks out for you, too :)

TheGirlFromIpanema · 16/07/2014 15:30

How injured was your husband? What did the police say at the time about your 'joke'.

I think these points are pertinent to what may or may not happen next tbh.

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Katie911 · 16/07/2014 15:37

He had one cut on his head that a clean and a plaster sorted out. Police mans exact words where 'A prank gone wrong' so he knew it was just a total mess that was made out of nothing.

and the twit comment i think is an understatement. Anxiety has hit the roof and cant eat or anything at the min I just feel sick. :(

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misstiredbuthappy · 16/07/2014 15:43

I think the police would of had to ring social services if you were both that drunk. If there was anythink to worry about im sure they would of turned up by now.

If they do turn up just explain you said it as a joke. There not daft im sure they know if kids are in danger or not.

Floggingmolly · 16/07/2014 15:45

You say your SIL had been babysitting "until you got home". So, she presumably left at that point and your children were in the care of a couple so pissed that one of them wakes the neighbourhood crashing through a glass door, and the other thinks it's amusing to claim responsibility for this when questioned by the police...
Your kids couldn't have slept through all that, surely? No wonder the policeman was concerned for their welfare Hmm

misstiredbuthappy · 16/07/2014 15:48

Dont worry OP im sure it will be okay.

WowserBowser · 16/07/2014 15:48

I don't understand. What is being implied? That you pushed your dh through the door?

Has he not pointed out that he fell?

expatinscotland · 16/07/2014 15:51

Who are all these people who get so bladders they do stuff like fall through a glass door, pee outside the bathroom, etc?

WTF?

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