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Forget him or hold on.

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leaa1 · 10/06/2014 18:49

My ex who hit the roof when he found out I wAs pregnant and begged me to terminate had been giving me a really tough time verbally to make me see how I couldn't have my 3 year old and a new born by myself. Anyways a lot has been said and done to each other now but yet I still can't get him off my mind. He told me at 20wks he wants nothing to do with that "thing" in my stomach & that he was going to stop talking to me until he was ready.
So as angry as I was because he said that I pretty much told his closest friends what his done and said to me, making him not the perfect person everyone thinks he is. He decided to yell at me & say I think u know & we both know I would have been there for the baby. I loved you then & I still do.

After everything his said how do I know his going to be there? I didn't.
I have 14weeks to go so I guess we will see if he is.

We're not speaking at the moment and haven't for a week.
It's sad that I have to do all the appts by myself & have no one to share the little moments with.
Even if he does want something to do with the baby when it is born, I'm not sure if I want him there. He can't keep changing his mind bout this baby like he does about me. I get so hurt & a baby/toddler/child shouldn't have to deal with the constant let down of there dad. It happened to me & It would be nice if it didn't happen to my baby.

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echt · 11/06/2014 09:13

OK - he said nasty things to you, and then when he was busted to his mates he tries to say what he would have done.

Pay attention to what he said at first and what he's doing now. He has shown himself, so believe him.

Consider putting this in Relationships. There's a good deal more traffic there.

You asked WWYD? I've never been in this position, or anything like it, but he sounds thoroughly nasty and will not be good dad to your child.
I hope I'd have the courage and sense to bin him.

Good luck.

LiberalLibertine · 11/06/2014 09:17

Yes everything echt said. He sounds a flaky wimp at best. A selfish bastard more likely.

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