Ok...my son 7 is good friends with another boy on our street who is 9. I really like this kid, and I also feel sorry for him. Without wanting to drip feed I won't type for hours but mum and dad rarely around, he is often just wandering round the street til 10 pm whatever the weather usually knocks on our door to see if he can come in. Very often he is left in the care of his teenage brother. This has been the case since he was 2 or 3. He's a lovely kid.
Maybe 10 times a month he comes in after school, they play, I feed him. At 7 I have to say ok time to go home. At least half the time there's nobody in when I try to take him home, so we have to try again half hour later when usually a teenage brother answers and lets him in. Whenever I see the mum she ignores me unless she wants something- not specially bothered just giving background.
So yesterday ds said " oh can "john" come and play later?"
Me "if there's time after swimming"
Ds" when we go upstairs to play he usually likes to touch my willy and my bum a bit and then we can play "
I was really calm and just said, oh that's very silly isn't it. Darling you know your willy and your bum are really private and nobody's allowed to touch them. If anyone tries to do that again you must tell them No and shout for me, ok? He agreed quite happy and that was it.
I felt sick :( DH first reaction was that kids never coming here again. I feel awful for ds, but also awful for the other child. I'm worried about him. Not sure if it's exploratory, is he a bit old for that sort of play? Or whether it could be that he's experiencing something more sinister himself.
Had a word with ds teacher as she's safeguarding person too. She says the school is aware of family, was reassuring and they'll do an assembly on appropriate touch etc, but feel like have I dealt with this ok? Have I been too casual with ds?? But just aware I don't want to make a massive deal.....?
Not judging anyone here, please don't flame me that I'm judging the parents, just would like feedback and reassurance??