What would you do... to get over a MASSIVE crush on someone?

[discophile]

I have a massive, massive crush on someone I work with. I am single. I think he may be single but don't know for sure. The point is that I behave like an absolute IDIOT every time I speak to him, look at him, go near him, etc. I have to find a way to "take back my power" if you see what I mean. This crush/lust/love is causing me problems. I have to find a way of dealing with it.

Should I tell him?????

Do I have to wait for it to pass????

wtf???

No, don't tell him!

Yes, you have to wait for it to pass.

In the workplace, it's a little tricky, as you may have to deal with the person and the consequences of making a fool of yourself can be long-lasting. OTOH, if you can establish for sure that he is single/unattached, and providing he's not your direct boss (for some companies have rules about relationships in the management chain to avoid the potential for nepotism) then other possibilities open up.

Why not tell him?

I mean, the thing is, he's probably guessed so maybe it's better out in the open.

If you're pretty sure he's guessed, and has not made a move on you, then it means he's not interested. So I can't see any benefit in being explicit and can see potential for embarrassment.

Well, yes, that's a good point.