This may be a little drawn out but it's a long story! - and im new to this and all the abbreviations. It's feb 2013 I'm 25 and have a 3 year old son who doesn't see his father. I join a website and this guy contacts me, seems genuine although I have my doubts with all the stories you hear. We got on really well and he looked amazing in his photos we arranged to meet but because of the doubts in my mind and after bring single so long and memories of my last relationship I stood him up. We spoke after and I explained this....he was still interested and keen to meet. Eventually we did and we got on really well...I knew he was married and he said he was separated with a son the same age as mine. There was lots of cancelled meetings due to our Childcare arrangements but we spoke everyday told each other we loved one another and shared ideas about our future but he had to take things slow as he was in a new job just back from living abroad living with friends and trying to see as much of his son as possible. Cutting a very long story sort was difficult for him to spend time at my place as my son is a light sleeper often up 3-5 times a night and ending up in my bed, couldn't go to his as he was staying with friends who were friends with his wife and he didn't want to rock the boat when in came to access to his son. We spent a lot of time (esp after he lost his job) at one if his other friends houses while he was at work I didn't mind too much he was great we got on and the sex was pretty decent. He saw my son a few times even commented on how much of a good kid he is. Soon after he lost his job he asked if he could borrow 50 that he owed his friend (the one who's house we had been using felt like it only fair after what we had been up to in his home. I paid the money directly into his friends bank account and as I'd never seen this friend but now had a full name I thought I'd be a little nosey and check out his friend on Facebook - while looking at this blokes friends I came across my fellas wife....how could I not look? To my horror I see she is pregnant I asked him about it and after calling me a crazy stalker said that she had had a one night stand the first since they had separated and that the child wasn't his and his wife didn't know the fathers name even. He said he was pleased for her as after their son was born she was told she cannot have any more children. I was supportive felt sorry for him and was there for him. Just before Christmas I had my own family issues going on and I was being stood up constantly! We talked throu it I was invited over to where he was living some evenings when he had his son (after he'd been put to bed) I even booked us our first holiday. Mid jan we were back at me being messed around so I ended it. Felt very bad about it and said we should talk etc finally we arranged to met again to talk but just talk clear the air and part on good terms before we met I discovered that I was pregnant, when he found out he went ballistic calling me all sorts and not to keep it I said I needed time to think about it, when I told him I wanted to keep the baby he said I couldn't because he wanted to be a dad to his son full time and give his marriage another go I argued that he was being unreasonable I mean his wife was having a baby with someone else if they want to be together sure I'd want him to be happy but this child could still be born and loved etc then I was told that the baby a boy was his and had been born already (around the time he was messing me about) and didn't want to know our child. I totally freaked out and messaged his wife family and friends on Facebook. Lots of arguments later, me trying to explain I'm actually further along than I thought (I wasn't really keeping track of my pill with all my family things going on) we arranged to meet for some last no strings fun. He wasn't feeling well but showed up it was awkward but ok he said was sorry for being a disappoint he didn't want to cancel but felt awful even being sick after leaving. We arrange to meet again and he tells me he loves me and the baby kisses touches my bump and he is extremely turned on by it all sex is great and we go our separate ways. Two days later I find myself in agony on the bathroom floor giving birth at 26 weeks. I let him know we have a daughter and send him a pic, I try to explain the complications with her being born so early he says he doesn't want to know. I had to leave my daughters side for a few hours as I had nothing I had someone watching my son and someone sitting in the hospital with my daughter instead of doing what I had to do I met him again to talk but well we didn't do much talking. I was told she has around a 15% chance of survival I called him in tears and explained that she probably won't even make it throu the night, he seemed concerned saying I'm so sorry etc etc. my daughter is still fighting for her life weighing around 1lb and I'm unable to hold her. My body isn't producing milk to feed her. I'm so scared, I'm struggling daily with it on no sleep trying to explain things to my son in a child friendly way and be in two places at once. I feel like I can't cope much longer. It's always been just me and my son we have been inseparable from day one but now I just feel so distant also longing to hold my daughter .... All the while messaging him.