am I being paranoid..... re neighbours baby?

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baby was born last October, I saw the baby day after they came home. They had moved in few months before, young couple in there early 20s.
They already have a 4 yr old girl. Have popped in once more before the Christmas period to drop of some post, baby seemed ok, well asleep, place was a complete mess, mum did confess to me she was drinking heavily on top of sleeping pills.
Have never ever seen her out with the baby boy in pram or putting him in the car seat to go out anywhere ever, no baby cries through joining rooms nothing and have very uneasy feeling....wwyd?

Have you seen the 4 year old?

Could you knock and see if she fancies a cuppa?

Maybe you are being paranoid… maybe not.

But that sounds really odd to me all things being equal.

Do you know if she has a HV or do you have one you could contact ?

I think I would go and buy a couple of second hand babygros or a couple of rattles or something and say I was having a clear out and found them as an excuse to pop over and have a closer look without it being too obvious.

I think my next port of call would be calling NSPCC if all isn't as it should be.

Could you pop round and see if she fancys a cuppa? Or make some excuse up? Waiting for a letter that theve said has been sent but hasnt arrived, just wondering if it had gone to you by mistake maybe

Or the baby grows toys idea is a good one

Yes the idea about taking round some baby clothes / toys that you've just "found while tidying" etc sounds like a good idea, would give you an excuse to ask after baby.

Hopefully that would give you a chance to see whether the paranoia is justified or whether there's some innocent explanation.

I volunteer for parentline in Scotland - I am sure there is a similar service in England...

We have lots of calls from concerned neighbours - we can also contact social services anonymously on your behalf if you have a concern about a child. More importantly we would listen to your concerns and help you to come up with a plan...

the idea of popping in now is not possible with a baby gro or something as early next week am going in for a big op, have not done anything before as am very unwell with brain tumour and have my own support network of nurses and care in for me.
I still do my school walk but never now see her do her do hers with 4 yr old as she did when she first moved in, we live in a property with a shared entrance so I do know, feel should be putting a call in?

Listen to your gut. Make the call. You won't relax until you do. Better that too many calls are made than too few.

Call. Usually I'd say probably you are paranoid but as she's admitted drinking and taking pills, call.

And do it as soon as you can.

Hope your health improves.

if its worried you then I'd make a call

That's sounds a bit odd. Do you see the four year old out with her?

I'd definitely pop by... The baby grows are a good idea, or sometimes my neighbour knocks to let me know they're going to be drilling or anything, so that could be an option?

If you have to ask about making a call then you need to make the call.

Do it anonymously if you have to.

Hope your op goes well and your health improves.